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| Mon, 01-12-2009 - 12:59pm |
Hi, my name is Amber and I'm a mother of an almost 9month old (the 19th) Isaiah. I don't currently have any potential dates lined up, but I was wondering for those of you who have younger children, how do you get out on dates? I mean like how do you schedule dates? Even if I just want to go for a girls night, it has to be way way planned ahead or it's so last minute, that I didnt even know I was going out lol. I'm just confused I guess, since I don't have that many options for sitters, as to how you go about planning a date with someone you are trying to get to know and what not. And do you ladies bring up the fact that you children right away? And well I guess depending on how the whole date goes and things progress when do you introduce your 'date' to you child? And how? I haven't really dated anyone in years, and like I said I have no potentials scheduled, I was just curious for maybe that one day I do get a date again, that isn't so much hanging out in a bar with a bunch of other friends as well. I'm really sorry if I confused the he!! out of you, I'm just confused and curious :) Thanks if you read this and actually respond ;)
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Hi and welcome!
Thank you for the compliment on my son (I think he's adorable too lol), and thank you for responding back :)
I do have a few friends with children and that is a really great idea that you suggested, but we are very close and we usually always go out together kwim? So I'm not sure that would work, or be very fun for that matter lol. Although I may suggest that in the future if ever I were to go on a date :)
As for Isaiah's dad, or rather the sperm donor as I like to call him...no he is not in his life, and actually I am glad he isn't. He doesn't deserve to know my awesome lil man and I personally don't want my son around that kind of man. Long story short, we were good acquaintances who flirted and had fun. My 27th b-day I decided I was in need of some kind of lovin, I got it from him, what I did not expect was an extra surprise lol. I tried to tell him, couldn't get a hold of him. Mutual friend told him, and he went all Maury Povich on me talking about it wasn't his blah blah blah....Isaiah's born I march my happy lil butt in child support. Two attempts from them to do paternity, he never shows. Goes to court, doesn't show. December 19th final attempt with the threat of jail time. He shows. Now here we are waiting on results. We go for child support Feb. 5th.
Not sure what happens next. Sorry to have gone all novel on your butt :) But I guess it's some background on my situation right? If you'd like to get to know more, please feel free to ask. I don't mind answering any questions.
Thanks again for your response and suggestions :)
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Check with your local YWCA and try to get some referrals.
Thank you for the background!
What a cutie! Kids are so fun at that age.
The YMCA thing mentioned was a good idea. Also, you could ask co-workers, neighbors, people you might go to church with. Just ask around. And yeah, when you have a child it's difficult to be a spur-of-the-moment dater. Things definitely have to be more planned.
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Ahh I'm not sure if he will or not... the awesome man of the hour has another braod already knocked up so who knows. It does worry me a bit though if he will want anything to do with Iz, and I'm not sure what I will do, or what I should do. I believe I dont have any rights to deny him seeing him if he is paying child support, but ugh he's such an arse, he makes me so mad and I just want nothing to do with him. Iz and I have done fine, just the two us. Not to sound totally ignorant or like a total b**ch, but I just need his money. That's the department I need help in kwim? I could really care less if he comes around. I am doing good raising my son alone. I have friends and family, that is good enough for me.
Ay! Sorry to ramble, but thanks for taking the time to help me out :)
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Hi and welcome to the board.
It sounds to me like it is not just a finding a babysitter issue, but trusting the sitter with your son, who is adorable btw.
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