New Year's Eve

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 1:50pm

I posted on the other board that Maggie mentioned but if any of your are interested, please pop over there and give any feedback you have. I didn't want to post here because traditionally singles don't want to hear about marrieds with regard to New Year's Eve plans although I have to say, they haven't been any easier since I've been married than they were when I was single. The post is under the for better or worse folder.

Hope it was okay to post this, just wanted to make sure my friends saw the post too.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 2:52pm

I think you should feel fine to post here!! Don't be silly.

At any rate, I think New Year's Eve is not a picnic for everyone, regardless of your marital status.

If you don't feel comfortable to go with strangers and spend the night then don't go. If it is not too far, why don't you go for just a bit. Never do something just to please another person.

Another alternative would be for you to go and listen to your hubby for a while and then go back to the hotel.Maybe you could have a surprise bubble bath for him and then you two would be alone for the rest of the night and the next day? I think you have to search and be creative so you keep both of you happy. It is not one sided and the money he makes for that one night is not worth your marriage. You must say how you feel but in a nice way.

If it makes you feel better, I had posted earlier that my sister always has her way with my parents. I expressed that I would like to be involved this year. Well she is back to her tricks - she went and booked reservations at the hoity toity restaurant here in surburbia and it is always filled with rich, snotty married people in their 40s and 50s. She did invite me to go with her husband and my parents but quite frankly I would rather be with my son than be a third single wheel and I told all of them that in a nice way.

At least I was invited this year. I guess that is a start! ;-)

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 2:58pm

I'll go over there and read Andrea, but I don't want ANYONE to feel like they "can't" post here now. We are all friends and we don't walk on eggshells.


And before I read, I just want to say that whatever your post is about, I know for myself that NYE Expectations are SOOOO high that they are often impossible to attain. That was just as a reminder to everyone. To go with the flow and not put too much into this one night of the year, if you know what I mean.

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 3:12pm

Thanks, you're so sweet. I really appreciate your openness to me posting about it.

Unfortunately it's not a gig situation--heck if it was and we'd been able to get a sitter so I could go I'd have a great time, partially because then the music would be stuff other people want to hear. This way the music selection is more for the entertainment of the musicians themselves instead of an audience. It's just 4 guys and the three wives getting together at one of the guys houses to jam. And it's about 35 minutes from where we live so there isn't a lot of room for creativity--basically it's going to there house and staying overnight there although dh said the guy indicated that we might actually have a bedroom to sleep in instead of just a matress on the floor in the family room. And unless our other friends really want dd to stay with them, we'll be sharing that bedroom with dd. Gee how romantic huh? Oh well, I guess that just tells me that I should stop and consider much longer the next time plans are suggested.

Hugs about the situation with your sister. I hope you and your ds have a fun night anyway. Plans? Maybe a favorite movie or board game? Anyway, thank you so much for your support.

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 3:37pm
Thanks for asking - I am just going to stay home with my son. We will set a nice table and cook a nice dinner and watch TV. I doubt we will stay up late but we will have a good time.
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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 8:38pm

"I know for myself that NYE Expectations are SOOOO high that they are often impossible to attain."

I thought I was the only person who felt this way. I typically don't do anything because of that. Besides, I have never felt particularly safe on the roads that night anyway. The best NYE I ever had was when I was about 25. My younger sister and I went to Wal-Mart to buy some art supplies for our then teenage sister. We got back to my apartment and ripped into the art supplies and drew all these crazy pictures...just silly girl stuff. We watched Dick Clark and ate pizza and had the best time ever! Now that we're both real grown-ups with kids and a husband for her, even that is impossible to relive. I guess it was so much fun because we didn't plan for it and thought we'd be bored all night.

As it turns out, I do have a sitter for tomorrow night and my guy is off work, so we'll probably do something. I just don't want to go out to a club or party - I'd rather just do the same things we would normally do when we go out.

Hope y'all have a great New Years Eve!

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 10:07pm

I totally agree with you about the night, it is supposed to be a night for BOTH of you, not just him. Yes, when he gets together with the guys to jam, it shouldn't just be to play the music YOU like, but new years isn't just another jam session.

Since you've agreed to go, you really shouldn't back out, and do try to have fun. Maybe let him know that YOU'LL be making next years plans...

Alison

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:23pm

Andrea, the CM said ivillage policy is to not ever ask anyone to leave. We CAN'T violate the rules! Post here...we want to know what you're up to!

New Years Eve expectations are goofy like all the other holidays. I've always had the nagging "if you don't have someone to kiss on New Years"...blah blah blah...stupid. It's just another day. You can start your year, or your whole life, any day you want. So I would say, do what makes you happy...and don't worry about it.

ANYway. I just didn't worry about it this year. One friend told my daughter to tell me
( I hate that second hand stuff) that she wanted to do NYE downtown with me if I didn't have other plans. AND she told her she'd email me, but to tell me to push her if she didn't. Well HELL...I don't want to have to do that. If she wants to ask me, she can ASK me, dammit. She's a depressive type who wants to stay depressive and have people come look for her. I decided I would not do that and just wouldn't do the downtown stuff this year anyway. The kids have their own things going on and I thought I'd rent a movie. No biggie.

I guess I AM going downtown though and do kind of have plans. Tom said he was going and that I was welcome to come along if I wanted, so we could meet. He said I could meet him at his house or at the coffee house downtown. I've opted for the coffee house, told him I was planning on being downtown anyway, and that it would be easier to be in two vehicles if we needed to go separate directions somewhere along the line. I don't want it to be a "must stay, 4 hour" first date. I want to be able to meet him, and in an hour maybe I will have to "go pick someone up". He's a dad, he'll understand.

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Fri, 12-31-2004 - 10:17am
Candi! A NYE date. How fun. I can't wait to hear how it goes with this guy. And you are sooo right. FOUR HOURS to be stuck in a first date could be a real nightmare. But since you've an "out" it might turn out good.
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Fri, 12-31-2004 - 10:32am
Don't forget the OT folder. If you don't feel comfortable posting something because it's not related to single and dating, just post it below. I've been checking and I think if people start using that folder it will become habit for everyone to check it. (Plus it might be more likely to be moved up if it gets used). In any case, it will never be a hard and fast 100% no way can an OT post be in this folder. That is too rigid and would be pointless.

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Fri, 12-31-2004 - 10:41am

FYI:


I will be requesting that we ditch the fun and games folder and put the off topic folder in it's place with the bragging/pictures folder just below. I think that will work well and then the off topic will be visible and new posts won't be missed.


This won't happen for SURE till next week and even then I can't be certain how quickly they can "reprogram" our page.


We'll see! ;)

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