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Registered: 06-29-2005
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Fri, 03-17-2006 - 2:46pm
Hi all....my name is Janet, I am 24 years old and I have a 20 month old son named Hunter. My DH died almost 9 months ago in a motorcycle accident. We were married just over 4 years, and together 7 years. I have come to a point where I am ready to find love again (I know a lot of people think it's too soon, but I know what I'm ready for) the greatest part is....I've found it! I met him about a month ago, but I've known him for about 3 years now. He is a wonderful man, and I couldn't ask for anything better.....
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Registered: 01-30-2006
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 3:10pm

welcome!!! I think only you can determine when your heart and mind is ready for a new relationship. People are quick to judge me when they find out how quickly I started dating after xh moved out. But I was ready and like you it was someone who was a good friend that caught my eye.

Good luck in your new love. Enjoy it and take your time.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 3:20pm

Hi Janet~
First let me tell you that Hunter is adorable! Oh how I miss that age ~ my "baby" is now soon to be 15 yrs old and is taller than I am by about 3 inches! He is still just as wonderful today -even as a teenager - as he was at Hunters age. Enjoy him each day - some days will be easier than others, but kids are wonderful.

Second I will tell you that I am sorry for the loss of your husband. I too am a widow - it was eight years at Christmas. I am glad to hear you say that you know it is time for you to find love again. No one can make that decision but you - and you will know it when the time comes. I on the other hand have had people tell me years ago that I needed to find a man. I wasn't ready and I knew it. I wasn't willing to push myself into something that I wasn't ready for - it wouldn't be fair to myself, the man or my son. I had people tell me I was just scared - or holding onto the past - or my son needed a father - or........ the list goes on and on! But I stuck to my guns - I knew what I wanted and certainly what I didn't want -- and that was to get into a relationship! I am now starting to lean toward that direction and it is exciting and scary at the same time.

I am very happy and exited for you that you have someone that you want to bring into your life and into Hunter's life. I hope you will share more about your story with us. Best of luck to you!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 10:38pm

Janet,


Welcome to the board.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 6:03am

Welcome to our board. We are happy to have you and hope you will stick around and participate as you can.

Your loss is very hard and sad indeed - if my calculations are right you were left by yourself with an 11 month old son. That is not easy.

It is good that you are ready and that you have found someone who has been a friend for 3 years.

Keep us posted - we are always here for you.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 9:11am

Welcome, Janet!

I'm sorry about your loss. I can't imagine what you've had to go through, but don't let others dictate your time frame for loving someone again. If you jump back in too soon, some will tell you you're moving too quickly, what about DH, etc... but if you wait too long, then others will be asking you why you haven't moved on, that DH was so long ago, etc., etc... you'll "catch it" no matter what you do. That's just how other people are!

So you really have to just go by YOUR heart and know when it's right for you. When the time is right, you'll know. Sounds like you've already met him, and I hope things work out for you! Just bear in mind that it's only been a short time that you're together, and to just keep taking things slow.

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 5:35pm
Welcome to the board! This is a very non-judgmental group, and the ladies here give wonderful advice. Glad you joined us!

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