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Newbie here...is there room for 1 more?
| Sat, 12-29-2007 - 4:25pm |
Hi! I'm a member of another board on ivillage, and only today discovered this board. I got excited about it LOL and would love to join everyone!
I will try to condense my situation and introduce myself in short form... I'm Jacey, 29, single mom to 3 kids (5yr old boy, 3 yr old girl, 1-1/2 yr old girl) I was previously married, my husband died almost a year and half ago. I re-entered the dating world a few months back and my BF is 31, rcmp member, has 1 son from previous marriage, been divorced 2 yrs. He hasn't met my kids, I haven't met his son, we're just dating and seeing where things go. His job makes it challenging at the moment lol
Look forward to getting to know everyone!

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Hello Jacey,
Welcome - we are always delighted to have one more. You and your children are beautiful and we look forward to learning more about you - I like what you write so far. We also look forward to having your opinion in all of our posts.
The more we have, the merrier!!
Welcome to the board, Jacey!
I love the photo- you have a beautiful family.
Hi Jacey,
Thank you for the welcome!
Yes, my husband was killed in a car accident in Aug 2006, and our third child was only 2 months old when it happened. We
Hi Angie,
I'm sorry to hear about your husband. How are you finding the dating scene now when you talk about being a widow? I'm finding I definitely do not like that label "widow" and find it chased some guys away (which was fine, kind of a built in screening system I suppose lol) not to mention you place single mom of THREE and if the widow information didn't send them running, that sure did LMAO. Luckily I've started dating a single dad of 1 and he's been wonderful, didn't scare away by either so we'll see where that goes.
This board is great! Feels so welcoming and homey! I like it! lol
Hi Jacey,
We have a lot in common.
Another thing in common, I too was fortunate enough to continue staying home with my kids. I worked an office job up until having my oldest over 5 yrs ago and have been staying home since. DH & I bought life insurance etc when we found out I was pg with DS along with the insurance my DH insisted on through his work, it made it possible for me to continue staying home while at the same time when the kids are old enough to go to uni, the money will already be there for them. Big sigh of relief. I remember refusing to do up wills and such because I felt like that was inviting bad things to happen. I would have been devestated, along with my kids, if I'd been forced back to work after DH's death. I run a dayhome (opened it when my DS turned 1) so that bit of income also helps and like you, I'm going back to school. I'm taking some business managment courses the difference being tho I'm doing everything correspondense/online. I don't have family living near me so its not often I have a night to myself. I don't get sitters very often at all since its expensive ($10 an hour) not to mention I have trust issues leaving ppl with my kids. Unless of course its a close family member like my mom or sister when they visit. All my DH's family is on the east coast (I'm in Canada) and all my family is up in the North. So at times it gets frustrating that I can't ever have a day to myself to do what I want to do, sleep in or just grocery shop without "extra help of little hands" LOL But I do feel very fortunate and blessed to have the kids, and be able to raise them at home still like DH & I wanted when we decided to start our family.
As for dating, I definitely have reservations about "am I TRULY ready or do I just think I am?" And I've been on a few dates, prior to meeting current BF. Before that, a friend & I had a "semi relationship" since he was out of town a lot and we'd get together once a month. It was mutual to end that and we're still friends. So far BF is wonderful and I'm enjoying just getting to know him. I'm not eager to rush into anything as the kids and I are pretty set up in our routine and I'm not looking to disrupt that. With that said it is exciting again to be with someone and have those feelings and emotions that come with a still-new relationship. I think there is definitely potential for long term, however I also think he's more ready for that right now than I am. I take it each day and just enjoy it :)
Do you mind me asking if you ended your last relationship? Did you realize you just weren't ready? Do you have feelings of wanting to be with someone but just don't want to deal with relationship stuff at the moment? I found for me, when the friend & I had our "arrangement" I had this overwhelming need to be with someone and feel loved. When we ended it, and I had some me time I was pretty indifferent to meeting someone. The dates I went on were fun, but I was sort of like "meh, take it or leave it" and I still felt that way when BF & I started talking and then met. I was interested in him, but at the same time had a real comfortable feeling that I didn't need anything from him. If we liked each others company, great, if we didn't that was more than OK too. does that make sense? LOL Which gave me hope that I'm healing and ready for a relationship even if its a "starter" relationship LOL The only real word to desribe it I guess is just comfortable. I'm comfortable in my life right now. And the things I add to it is gravy. OK, enough babbling out of me! LOL SHeesh these get long!
I'm also able to stay at home with my kids (10, 13).
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