Newbie here...is there room for 1 more?

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Newbie here...is there room for 1 more?
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 4:25pm

Hi! I'm a member of another board on ivillage, and only today discovered this board. I got excited about it LOL and would love to join everyone!


I will try to condense my situation and introduce myself in short form... I'm Jacey, 29, single mom to 3 kids (5yr old boy, 3 yr old girl, 1-1/2 yr old girl) I was previously married, my husband died almost a year and half ago. I re-entered the dating world a few months back and my BF is 31, rcmp member, has 1 son from previous marriage, been divorced 2 yrs. He hasn't met my kids, I haven't met his son, we're just dating and seeing where things go. His job makes it challenging at the moment lol


Look forward to getting to know everyone!

 

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:39pm
yes I am SO glad I found this board. I really had to sit back and think, and nope. All my friends are either married, or in commited relationships for the past year. When they were all single, I was the married one. So its so nice to have this board to come to and feel "homey" with other single moms who even if not in my specific situation or anything close to it, its just nice knowing I'm not alone

 

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:40pm
That is

 

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:40pm
Thank you! And yes I agree, this board is wonderful and I'm very glad to have found everyone here!

 

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:39pm

hi there and welcome albeit a little belated!

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 7:59am

You may have felt you were rambling but I understood to a tee everything that you wrote.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 8:03am
Welcome - I love your pic - glad to have you join us!!
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:38am

Thank you!


And to answer your question, no I don't have any family that lives close by. All of my family is a good 24 hour drive North of us and all of my DH's family is on the far east coast. So we're quite along living here, and when I do go out, it means getting a sitter. Which can get expensive very quickly, so I've found that swayed me away from many dates if there wasn't something "there" during out online conversations. Which is jaded perhaps, but $10 an hour for my sitter, to go on every single date would have added up fast lol

 

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:58am

Oh my goodness yes!! You nailed it LOL I do the SAME things! And I'm really taking your post as a wake up call that I am indeed going to sabatoge this new relationship if I don't let him in a bit more where I can. I do the same thing. When I comment how hectic some days are dropping kids at school, running errands, picking kids up, running more errands, dr appt etc etc etc and he'll say something like "I hope one day we get to a point where you'll let me help out with stuff like that" and I find myself saying "Oh no, I'm used to it. I just need to complain sometimes" LOL I have the sweetest neighbors who has repeatedly offered to help me with the kids and I keep saying "Oh no! I'm fine really! It just LOOKS like I need help but really I'm used to it" urgh! LOL A few times I've kicked myself for not taking them up on it. Because I get the strong feeling they'd love to have the kids' company as they don't have grandkids of their own, but I just can't bring myself to accept help and admit I can't do something on my own. Out of stubborness, last year, after purchasing a treadmill, I insisted of picking it up myself (I was being cheap and didn't want to pay the $55 delivery fee), brought it home, then waited until after dark so no one would see me, and I lugged that thing into my house myself, and down the basement stairs (nearly killing myself in the process by being squished) and then setting it up myself. The thing weighed more than an elephant but would I accept help? nooo. that was a waking up point for me too LOL Never again will I be cheap on a delivery fee of something so large and heavy LOL! But the truth is, the man I'm seeing right now, has so much to offer and we get along so amazingly well so far. And it does scare me (well...scare isn't quite the appropriate word) that I can feel these feelings for someone other than my husband, and I really enjoy our time together, and if things keep on the track they're on, I can definitely see us being together a long long time. But if I keep doing what I'm doing, he's going to give up I suspect. And not about meeting the kids, more about just admitting I need him sometimes and he's there because he's needed and wanted. Not just because he's a good booty call and "it beats the boredom of watching a movie alone" know what I mean? I need to relax more and let him know than while yes, I'm strong and independant I do want him in my life and perhaps I can find some stuff around the house I haven't already fixed that he can putter at LOL


That is a fantastic pic! Your girls are gorgeous!

 

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 12:19pm

LOL about the treadmill.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 12:34pm

Hi again, Jacey.