Newly dating again

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Newly dating again
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:59pm
Hello, I've decided to introduce myself. I have been single for a while, and decided to start dating again. Deciding to start dating and actually doing it are two different things, but we'll see how it goes. Anyhow, I'm new to the dating scene, new to the board, and a single mother. This seemed like the place for me.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 4:09pm

Welcome to the board! This is a great board to be on. I have been with this group for 4 years. I was off it for a few months, because I moved to the States and had to get settled, but I think I am finally at that stage.


So tell us a bit about yourself. What state are you from? How old are you? How many kids do you have and how long have you been single?


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Registered: 02-08-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 4:40pm
Well, I have 2 kids, they are just great... my son is 7, my daughter is almost 5, going on 15. We live in a tiny town in Upstate New York, I am going to be 25 in a couple of weeks, and I have been single for about 4 years. I left my ex-husband when my daughter was about 4 months old, and made the mistake of jumping into a relationship pretty quickly after that. It lasted for about a year, but it wasn't good, and we all are much better now. It's taken me this long to realize I CAN be happy single. So, now, the question is, can I be happy dating? I think I can, and my girlfriends are sure I can, so we'll see. Most of my friends are much older than I am, so typically the guys I meet are, too, which is actually just fine with me. Guys my age are usually not into dating a divorced woman with two kids, I wouldn't imagine. So, anyhow, that's my life in a nutshell, thanks for the welcome, and as soon as I HAVE a dating story or two to tell, you bet I'll share! Meanwhile, it'll probably mostly be a whole lotta questions, since I haven't done this since... well.... I've never done this dating thing!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:03pm

WELCOME! And of course this is the perfect board for you - we are happy to have you.

Sounds like you and I are in the same boat. I haven't dated in a while either and am happy as a single person. Just have to find the right person to date.

Stay and participate and of course ask all the questions you want!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 11:00pm

Welcome to the board!


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Registered: 02-14-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:05am
I too, am new to re-entering the dating game. All I can say, to sum it up, is I went on a date last Friday night for the first time in over three years and I was totally freaked out. I felt like an idiot for being so skittish. I guess time will tell....
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 12:47pm
Hi and welcome to the board! I am a single Mom with a 14 y/o son and 10 y/o daughter. I have been divorced for 4 years after being married for 21. I haven't dated much since my divorce and most of the experiences would have made for some excellent Jerry Springer episodes! Looking forward to getting to know you!
Stephanie
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Registered: 02-11-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 2:19pm

Hi,

It's really hard, isn't it? I am doing it in stages - after my divorce was final, I took a few months and tried online and looking around on my own, got over the complete freakout, quit for a while, then started again. I was so scared the first few dates. I know I scared off several just a) trying too hard b) not trying hard enough c) talking too much about my single mom-ness d) all the above. I have not yet gotten past a first date and it's been seven months. Hope you are luckier! It took me a while to remember how to listen to my gut. I was never too great at dating even before I was married (although I never had to play the game, the apples just fell into my lap back then!)

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Fri, 02-17-2006 - 11:38am
Well, I think a big part of my problem is that I'm also so young. My friends are all huge mixture of ages, which is so nice when it comes to the kids, work problems, and life in general, but they haven't been in the dating pool in a long time. I wish I could report that I've been on a date and it went wonderfully, but I haven't even had one... next weekend, a bunch of my friends are going out to celebrate my birthday, and a guy I'm interested in is coming too, so here's hoping!

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