NEXT!

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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 7:44pm

Well so much for Mr. Wonderful. He was apparently a little too excited about our date and couldn't control himself. The last two days I couldn't have any sort of conversation, text or email that was not sexually related. I kept trying to

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In reply to: redrosehip
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 8:09pm

Speaking for myself I can relate about getting carried away with someone I really like. I get carried away with emotional intensity but I see it the same thing (in a way). I have been without for so long that if I can relate emotionally then I seem to blast the woman away with my "intensity." Plus I do crave touch so that is something else I realize that I have a tendency to get carried away on given a chance...

It is not so much as being a player but the deprivation in my life has set me up to go overboard sometimes.

I am not trying to excuse this guy or tell you that you should go back to him but just to give my perspective.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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In reply to: redrosehip
Thu, 05-15-2008 - 10:51pm

But Mark... I can't picture you making everything into a sexual comment though!!! Or do you??! If you do, and that's what you mean by "being intense" as soon as you like a woman... then I'd say I would be

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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In reply to: redrosehip
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:32am

I'm all for sexual banter but I couldn't get him to talk about anything else. We've only been on a few lunch dates and shared one kiss so I'm still trying to get to know him.

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In reply to: redrosehip
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 2:03am

Let me clarify... I am intense *emotionally* not sexually. What I was trying to convey is that not being able to "control" myself was to control emotions. Mr Wonderful was about the sex but for me it's all about being excited about someone and controlling yourself.

I do get carried away emotionally with someone when I like her and hence the intense label. For Mr Wonderful it was the sex talk I guess.

Mark

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In reply to: redrosehip
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:29am

"The last two days I couldn't have any sort of conversation, text or email that was not sexually related."

You made a great decision here to give him the NEXT! Smart girl!! I would not put up with that either. I want a man who has romantic feelings for me and who treats me with great care and who wants a relationship. Unfortunately the school of hard knocks has taught me that those types do not come on strong sexually from the beginning! And the ones that do never go to the other side of romance, respect and love.

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In reply to: redrosehip
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:16am

I'd like to build some sort of foundation for a relationship before we just jump into the all sexual part.


Good for you!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: redrosehip
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:40pm

Well, it's pretty clear what HIS love language is! Too bad he doesn't seem to speak the others..


I like what Judy said a while back on another post- Dating is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.


Some are just plain nutty..lol!


I applaud you for getting out there and "sampling"....great first step! And your ability to take a taste an then reaize this guy is not your kind and put him back in the box shows your confidance..


Keep going and keep faith, I don't know what your favorite kind of chocolate is but he's in that box somewhere!


Pacific...happy to be going on a date with my own piece of chocolate this evening ;o)


~Pacific~