...the next question of the week

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...the next question of the week
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Wed, 01-26-2005 - 9:13am

Candi's question of the week has led me to one I have been dying to ask all of you.

-How do you measure the quality of your sex life? What do you define as good versus bad?
-If a man is selfish in bed do you think you would see this anywhere else in his life - in other words, is he selfish in other ways?

Maybe you have experiences you want to share - how you communicate to make it better - insight. I agree with all of you that sex is very important.

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 12:01pm

A blessing and a curse. Yes, some guys are turned on by it, but others don't feel that way. One guy actually told me I was peeing the bed -- NOT!!!

This is why I feel most comfortable sexually in a good relationship -- I don't have to feel self-conscious or wierd or try to hold back and not have it happen. It's too hard to explain to just the average person.

Current BF is extremely turned on by it -- that's all that matters to me. He likes it, it doesn't bother him at all -- so, it doesn't bother me. It makes a difference when you can be totally comfortable with someone that way -- at least it does for me.

Donna

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 12:10pm

West:

Thanks for posting. It's nice to know I'm not alone. It's something that has defintely developed over time and gets easier over time also. It's a little more difficult with intercourse, and they don't happen as frequently than with other ways, but it happens that way too. I guess I'm just lucky.

Donna

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 12:39pm

First:

I was reading all these posts and I realized that your question kind of got lost. "If I have an orgasm with manual stimulation, it's like an explosion and afterwards I feel done." That's how it feels like for me manually. With intercourse it feels the same way, but a little less intense -- not as big of an explosion - but definitely a "release feeling". Don't feel bad, I've only been able to come during intercourse with one person. For some people, manual is just easier. After all these posts I've realized that each woman is different -- unique and special in her own way.

Donna

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 12:43pm

>>>After all these posts I've realized that each woman is different<<<

Yes, this has been a great thread :)

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 2:21pm

Little did I know - but yes - I am glad I posted this question. At first I was afraid no one would speak up - but I know from the shaving thread you guys taught me a lot.

I am waiting for the next bf to experiment. But not until after the banana peel - LOL!!

I think the FE is from developing the g-spot. And you can also have an O from the manual stimulation - I can have as many as I want from those - but the ones during intercourse are the ones I want to try for next time. Will see what happens!!

Donna - I am glad you feel so comfortable with Mark. That means all the world in a relationship!!

I think I have another question for everyone but will post in another thread. I want to know how many fake or have faked the big O!!

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 2:47pm
The shaving thread must have been before I got here. Do you remember when? I'd love to go back and read it.

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 3:10pm

I think this is the one Judy is referring to.


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsolomother/?msg=7389.1

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 4:15pm

Judy:

"Donna - I am glad you feel so comfortable with Mark. That means all the world in a relationship!!" He's one of the few men I've been with that doesn't make me feel like an alien from another planet.

I think you guys can now see why I posted before that I'm a little shy of intimacy and it usually takes me a little while before I'm comfortable enough to sleep with someone. I mean it can be embarrassing. I mean how do you say to a guy you just met -- when things are getting hot and heavy -- excuse me, do you have a towel or were going to be sleeping on the couch!! KWIM? It's a lot easier if I can discuss the situation ahead of time so there's no "surprises". But you just don't do that with strangers. Mark and I have always been open in the communication department. Maybe that's why it doesn't bother him in the least. We just always have a few towels handy!LOL

Donna

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:00pm

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