No longer beating the Dead Horse...

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No longer beating the Dead Horse...
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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 9:47am

Soooo, I'm no longer going to beat the dead horse or think about what just happened for three whole days. LOL "The nightmare on RF street" ends in that long A$$ thread. :)

After a little more thought, here is the game plan that Ali wondered about.
As you remember, I sent a note to Looney about the healing process and what I do. Every time I get involved, I give myself about three months (give or take two weeks) to adjust back from the reel of things. If I don't allow myself that peace of mind, then not only am I not healing, but I'm also not learning and if I don't learn, then I deserve nothing more then being someone's door mat.
Therefore, as tradition stands: I will reflect, heal, learn and the next time, do things differently again. I am EXTREMELY proud of the way I handeled the situation, because I remained calm the entire time. Even last night, being unglued, wasn't about yelling, throwing a temper, but just tears streaming down my face, saying exactly what I felt and keeping my voice low and calm. I exited in that manner too. No door slamming, no throwing myself to the ground, no begging or groveling. I exited in a way that I can be proud of by: Getting up from the couch, looking at him, quietly walking away, standing at the door a second, telling him "damned if I do, damned if I don't, No matter what I said or would hav siad, I wouldn't have gotten it right for you" and then closing the door behind me.

Sooo yes, all I want to do now is support everyone on this board, reflecting some more on my life, enjoying my children and putting myself into work again and the house.

Since this has gotten to be a pattern, I am going to call it: Cat's Cave Time.

Cat's Cave Time has become an important part of my life this year. And I think I am really going to delve into some more of what Mark mentioned: The FOO. Who you attract when you have your issues. Interesting concept to think I have abandonement issues and therefore attract only those that want to run away. I've thought often about this, but haven't figured out how to change the FOO. I think I might try to learn on how to overcome this.

And I never do New Years resolutions, but I do Birthday Resolutions, so I guess it's a good time to start thinking of them too.

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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 12:55pm

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) which deals with the unconscious.

This sounds REALLY cool too! Thanks for the info! I'll look into some of these books from Hendricks and see how else I can improve my inner sanctum.

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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 1:48pm
Mark that sounds like a really interesting book.
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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 4:33pm

Next time, when I meet a man, I have to make sure to do a bulg check. :)


Hey Cat,


Is this going to be in lue of a handshake???


Is this going to be in lue of a hand shake?

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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 5:50pm

*choke*

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

The boy

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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 6:37pm
OMG that sounds awesome!!
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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 7:26pm
I can picture that scene in my head and it's ~*~amazingly funny~*~


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