No more men for me...

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Registered: 12-27-2006
No more men for me...
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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 11:52am

for a long time. Things are OK with MCDAD, but I am just going to stop dating for a while......Even hobbling around on crutches I've been asked out..which makes me feel good. But, I'm just not happy and I deserve to be happy. Right now I'm just sad...Thanks for all the wonderful advice and or opinions you all have given me......

~~Tiny


I want

~Karen
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 12:10pm
ahhhhhh Tiny, I knew that you were having some second thoughts about McDad after his return from the cave.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 1:14pm

But, I'm just not happy and I deserve to be happy


You are exactly right on that one--if things aren't feeling fabulous then there is no reason to go forward!

April

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 1:52pm

The thing is that I'm happy with the way things were/are progressing with MCDAD. He's completely stepped up to the plate with his actions. I like the way I feel when we are together. We talk, play, relax, laugh, spar(verbally), joke. I'm just not happy with me. I keep doubting myself. I question his motives(not outloud, but to myself)


I went 24 yrs with my ex who was attentive, loving and respectful...just to find out it was a LIE..He had started being unfaithful from almost day one. And it only took 22 yrs for me to see it!! We have gotten past infidelity, hurt, lies, etc. and are actually good friends now. I know part of the reason for my unhappiness is that I'm afraid to trust..especially a man. So, I made the decision to step back and re-evaluate myself. Not relationships but ME. I know that I'm starting to isolate myself from MCDAD, my kids, everything. I'm drinking more, too. alone....I do go to therapy and when I'm there I work on trust but..I feel like I'm failing miserably.


I don't trust my judgement. and rather than be hurt and feel like I've failed again. I need to check myself.

~~Tiny


I want

~Karen
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 2:18pm

Wow... good for you to notice what is going on with you and deciding to do something about it.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 7:31pm

i feel ya... sometimes we have to find a CENTER... and i've learned that men are not the center... they can drive me crazy, but my world does not revolve around them....


I pray you will find your center, Tiny! Life gets better from the inside out... not the outside in...


Hugs and prayers,


Loonybunny


ps. for me, my center is Jesus....

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 8:16pm
Sending buckets of (((hugs))) your way, Tiny.

I know what you mean about trust and not being happy with yourself. I'm there right now too and using alcohol to make it "better". We don't have to go through this alone though. This board and our friends here are a great support and we have our kids, our shining stars.

I really don't have any advice or magic words, only friendship. Hang in there and keep us posted on how you're doing.

Cat
Cat
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 05-10-2008 - 8:12am

" I'm just not happy and I deserve to be happy" - ABSOLUTELY!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 05-10-2008 - 2:30pm

(((Tiny)))


I think that taking a break will do wonders for you- and staying away from McDad will help.


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