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| Thu, 05-15-2008 - 3:11pm |
except to say I am appalled & disgusted at what this country calls a "Court system" & how no one seems to have a clue.
Lets start w/ some of the thing in the psyc report:
*"shortly following the courts recommendation that family become invloved in therapy, last year, mother made an appt with me. But father did not do so for 11


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1 thing i fogot to tell you. Taz almost crapped himself when i pulled out the psyc report. he immedietly started saying "wait, i never saw that. wheres MINE?" i said "ask you atty, mine gave me my copy". While the mediator had it, Taz kept insisting on seeing "whats in there about me?"
I don't know what to tell you Rebecca.
It might be that they drop him from the mediator program. Might be your fear comes true. Your plan to file the complaint later might be best. My gut and heart
It's amazing someone that stupid can remember to breath.
ROFL!
I think the psych is about the only who could file a complaint and be taken seriously.
ARGH!!!!
I do see part of your point & you are right in that he is a retired judge.
OMG. YOu poor thing - what a drama. I am just reading all of this now.
I do think gal malia has good points about the reality of the way things are with regards to the court system and the process. Of course I do not agree with the system, the way the mediator was so unprepared and his total lack of sympathy to a child with regards to emotional abuse. I am appalled at his plain lack of time and will to really learn what is involved. From what you write, I get the feeling that you were like cattle being driven through the system - there are just too many for too few to handle.
I think, Rebecca, if I was you, I would talk to the lawyer to find out what you can realistically expect to expect and to accomplish. Are ALL the mediators this way and is this typical of how a case similar to yours would be handled because the court is so overwhelmed? OR is this a crazy thing that you must fight?
I would also talk to the psych to find out how you should handle this given the circumstances and going forward. Meaning how to handle drop offs, pick ups, visitation, Taz, etc - that part is important and I would employ his opinion until things can either smooth out or blow up which would/could take you to the next step.
I was wondering if you could back off from driving her and making such an effort to accommodate Taz? My take would be that he MUST stick to the schedule no matter the cost of convenience to you - there is no switching of days or being late, etc. Which to me, would mean that he slacks off and doesn't see her as much given the story because he doesn't seem capable of being consistent and responsible and this would work in your favor.
The 2 BIG wins, that I do see, that you might not realize are:
1) Although you do not have supervised visitation that you wanted (and in my opinion clearly need along with him seeking help for his problems), you have dealt a HUGE blow to Taz because this is NOT what he wants. To me, that is a huge halt to him being able to go on a tirade and not have consequences. This is a legal foothold for you to more steps being taken to getting to where you want to go. You have to try to see it from his eyes. They are saying he will never get an overnight with his daughter and I URGE you to stick to that at all costs with the way things stand.
2) The psych still has control.
Rebecca,
A thought occurred to me this morning that this mediator may not be as stupid as he appears to be. If that is the case. Then he has done you a favor in a totally ruthless and to me dangerous way.
What he may have done is hand Taz the noose with which to hang himself. I believe you said that he said if there where any more problems you could have an expedited court hearing within a week. He may be anticipating some kind of screw up by Taz which will enable you to get to court faster and get a more final resolution.
Sneaky, devious, ruthless and dangerous.
good luck to you
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