Not even sure where to start here ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Not even sure where to start here ...
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 3:11pm

except to say I am appalled & disgusted at what this country calls a "Court system" & how no one seems to have a clue.


Lets start w/ some of the thing in the psyc report:


*"shortly following the courts recommendation that family become invloved in therapy, last year, mother made an appt with me. But father did not do so for 11

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:30am
That is a great point - maybe it is all due process? One can only hope, right?
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:53am

Hopefully my ? to the psyc will answer the 1st part of your post.


I did speak w. psyc about the pick up drop off, etc. As usual, try to minamize any interaction with him. & dont react if he does. & be taping, w/o his knowing.


Heres the driving situation - He has come here TWICE in 3 yrs & he is a LUNATIC. Truly. He SO SO SO emotionally cant handle seeing "his house & his dogs in teh window", he gets brutal.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:54am

Maybe. Maybe. But i doubt it. He just seemd to ... well ... stupid!


But youre right, IF thats the case - its a scary freaking thing to put a poor kid thru!

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Registered: 04-14-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:03am

But youre right, IF thats the case - its a scary freaking thing to put a poor kid thru!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:23am
I wonder what the psych would say about you doing so much of the driving? I can see your point about keeping her safe and that is what comes first. But to me, if he can't handle driving or sharing driving then he can't handle seeing her - and maybe if he doesn't drive to the door and pick her up nice then he doesn't get her? Not sure.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:01pm

You have to remember, the mediator probably sees over

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Registered: 04-14-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:49pm

I see your point too, and I'm not saying the guy is mediator of the year, I'm just saying I doubt he's "incompetent" either, as some said.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 6:24pm

I'm a regular at the step boards and these issues come up all the time. From what I've seen overwhelmingly, the courts don't get involved unless there is physical abuse, sexual abuse, legal neglect. In other words, things that can be reported to CPS. Then the courts get involved. They don't get involved if a married couple emotionally abuses their children, but they darn sure will if there is physical abuse/marks on child. Same thing with a divorced couple. They will not just get involved for emotional abuse. It's almost a miracle you've come as far as you did. The mediator was simply following the rules of the court system.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 1:56pm

Just a note that the psyc was chosen by, & appointed to the case by, the COURT.

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Registered: 04-14-2007
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 12:20am

Per my brother-in-law,