Not just a small red flag but WAVING

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Not just a small red flag but WAVING
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 8:23am

high, large red flag.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 8:56am

DAMN!

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:07am
Oh, I am so sorry that he is not the guy you thought he is.... at least you have found out now while you are still dating....that is what dating is for, right? But, it still really stinks. I think I would tell him exactly what you think in a calm cool manner. Then, run for the hills! ((((HUGS)))))
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:17am

I TOTALLY

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:22am

Ok darlin, before you jump off the wagon, lets do the list:
First off how much drinking have you seen from him?
Now begin to write down the good and bad traits you've seen in him. It's obvious you are backing off, so other then what others say, what have YOU seen?

At the end of the day, you can't ignore him. You have to remain honest with him. It doesn't have to go into detail if you decide to dump him, but you do have to say that you realize after seeing him sometime, that you like him, but you are looking for something different and that you are in a different spot in your life. Heck! Use your kids as a great excuse to back off. That is what I would do if you felt uncomfortable otherwise. He doesn't have to be the wiser to all else.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:42am

FIRST off " My friend said not to jump to quick, said maybe I am what he needs to get him moving in the right direction.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:44am

Yep, thats what dating is for, to learn about the other person.

 
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:47am
Thanks, I agree with her too.
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:51am
I honestly haven't seen too much drinking out of him, or should I say excessive drinking.
 
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:53am
I forgot, but does DJ have his own kids? I would red flag anyone that I felt didnt support their children. That would be a serious deal breaker.
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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:58am

Oh man, LC!

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