Not sure what to do.

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Not sure what to do.
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 5:40pm

On a good note first I found one of my girls from work her perfect man. I talked to him at the mall and I knew and told him I knew his perfect match but she had a looser bf. Needless to say I called her up to see if she wanted to come to the Christmas meeting at work and told her if she got rid of her bf I had her perfect man. She had just broken up with her bf the night before and told me to give him her number. Then at the Mall I talked to him and told him all of her flaws nothing but bad things about her. Except at the heart of who she is she is a good person who cares about others. He smiled and laughed and wanted her number I told him to think about it and I'd see him in a couple of days. He did and still wanted her number. I gave it to him and then she was in the mall to get her schedule for the day after Thanksgiving and he was working so we sent her to talk to him. They went out last night and had a great time. I'm good at that finding someone their perfect person. I don't do it often but when I do it works out 100% of the time. This couple makes #4 set up for me. This makes me smile.

This guy I've not been seeing or whatever I don't define it. Told me he would stop by the mall one weekend and he didn't (shocker) Then last Friday I took off the mall for a couple of hours and had dinner but no sex and then he said he would come see me at the mall last weekend. Okay is what I said and he remembered he had said that and didn't. I said yeah. So, being as I have low expectations here I was shocked when he showed up at my store. I was my usual smart ass self at work and told him I was shocked he was up past 8pm. Then one of my girls was like you must be so and so. Oh god. That scares them off. He left I was busy. I called him Sun to thank him for actually coming. He told me I talk too fast and he had to go. Okay. Then opps I remembered that I had left a movie over there that I needed to return. I called yesterday and he didn't answer but called me back. He was out of town so I didn't mention the movie. I called today and no one answered but I knew he was home we live a block from each other so I just went over there. He was busy doing something and asked me if his place looked nice. I really don't care so I said it looks great. It actually doesn't look bad and we have the exact same coffee table now.LOL. Anyway he said he needed a remote for his TV and I actually just had one at home I'd bought because I thought my kids had lost the last one and then found it the day I bought a new one so I said I'd bring it over. I brought it over and handed it to him standing outside his door. He pulled me in and kissed me. But I really had to go kids getting off the bus in 10 minutes and all. Then he calls me tonight and says he will call me back then he actually does. I know this is going no where. But, I don't want it to go anywhere. Next week is Thanksgiving. I will get sucked into the mall and the chirstmas shopping season and I will have no time. But on a high note I have found that potatoe chips and coke does curb my need for sex. I have just lost 50 lbs but who cares wanting something that is not going to happen is worse than the weight. I guess I just had to get this out. I don't need help I just need more potatoe chips. Thanks if you read this.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 7:49pm

It appears that you realize he is not that into you. Pushing and poking someone along is no good for the human spirit.

I think you have to buckle down and do something to keep yourself busy so you don't call him or dwell on this matter. Good thing you will be busy at work.

It is great that you have lost that much weight - don't put on a single pound for his sake.

Someone who sees you as great no matter what is going to hound you to pieces and it is just going to be right. You just have to wait and be patient and not get tied up to someone who does not view you as great for them. When they like you, they go wild.

And you will have one soon enough. You sound like a kind hearted person!! Welcome to our board.