A note to all my sisters here

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Registered: 05-13-2005
A note to all my sisters here
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Thu, 04-27-2006 - 8:18am

Of course by now everyone has read the post that iVillage had to intervene on. I must say I am saddened by how it turned. It was not my intention to hurt anyone's feelings - only to bring out points that worried me as a mom.

First of all, whenever I make a post to anyone here, it is well thought out. Just like I would give advice to a sister or dear friend. I always try to have respect for the person and how they might differ in age, life's experiences, income, goals, "liberal attitude" and stuff like that.

Most of the time I have given everyone here a thumbs up. But when I question something I have to say it. I just do. I feel responsible - not only for you but for your kids. It would be real easy not to question some things, especially when you seem happy with them. But that is not the "right thing" to do.

I have been on this board for a while. So I have the advantage of knowing the history of many. Along with many lessons everyone has taught me. And with my own dating experiences from OLD and real life. And from all of my friends - I have many friends with very successful marriages and a few who are like me - looking - and they range in ages from 21 to 51 - with and without kids.

This does not mean by any means that I am THE AUTHORITY. I am just one opinion that is dedicated to giving you my best.

I am conservative. I am child oriented. So my opinions are always going to be that. I believe that we should all have very fulfilled lives and be all the best we can be for ourselves and our children.

If you do not like my opinion you have a right to say so. And if you have a differing one you not only have a right to say so, but you are encouraged to say so. But you are encouraged to say so in a respectful manner - not only to me but to everyone.

BUT if you slam me or anyone else here, I am going to bring in iVillage to remind you of the TOS.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 9:46am

One thing I like about this board is the diversity. We are different ages, come from different parts of the country and have different life experiences. Therefore, we have a good chance of having opinions that are not the same.

Don't ask a question or ask for an opinion unless you are ready to hear the answers. Bad or good. I personally don't like people to blow sunshine up my skirt. You can disagree without getting personal. One of my best friends is Buddhist. I am Christian. We have gotten into some really intense and sometimes heated conversations. But, we have agreed to disagree!! We still respect each other even though our opinions are miles apart.

Thats all I have to say on the subject and I really think this board is one of the best on I-Village!
Stephanie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 9:59am

I also was not involved in the "pow-wow", but want to agree that we are all different women. We all have different backgrounds, morals, upbringing, income, spiritual/religious beliefs, etc. It is nice to hear different different stories, with different angles. We can't all be the same. As Jennie has said elsewhere, regarding self help/relationship books... TAKE WHAT YOU WANT(CAN)AND LEAVE THE REST. Sometimes we will see something we disagree with, and just know "well, I know I wouldn't have done that", and othertimes, we think "WOW, That's what I should do"....

There is no reason for anyone to take any offense for different opinions. Hopefully, we can all be grown up enough to not be rude or abusive to any of our "sisters" here in the board(s).

HUGS to everyone!

Kerry

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 10:20am


West1745,
I feel the same way and I no the post that you referring too. you were just looking out for that person and her children. when I first joined the board and the others didn't always post what I wanted to read or hear but you did help me to get out of some bad dating situations by making me think and ask those questions. I feel you are doing a good job but if people don't want to follow what is post that is there right but can't be angry for your opinion.

hugs lisa

lisa j romesburg

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 11:24am
First of all let me say that I think what happened to you here was wrong! To personally attack you that way was totally uncalled for. You always give such caring, loving support
and advice to everyone who post here that I was hurting for you when I read that. This is an opionion forum and we all have to remember that. It's o.k. to say: "I don't agree with you" nothing wrong with that. If I make a post about anything, I have to accept all that comes with it, even if I don't like it(just take what's applicable). This is hands down the best forum on the village, lets strive to keep it that way.
The T Girl
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Registered: 05-06-2002
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 12:16pm

wow Im surprised a blow out where I wasnt involved...

I havent read what happened. However, I am sure your intentions were kindhearted from "your" perspective. As a woman who dated and didnt go by conservative standards and I KNOW that I did things you wouldnt and didnt approve of...many didnt here back then and made VERY sure I knew about it... Well I still respect the fact that time was taken to tell me.

Stinks when someone doesnt agree and lashes out at you. Been there and done that on this board. Sorry!