Note- Thurs AM meeting with psyc & X -

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Note- Thurs AM meeting with psyc & X -
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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:16pm

psyc called to say that X was able to fit his appt into what we (psyc & I) were avaliable. Its Thurs AM.


X has been pretty quiet since the threats last week via phone that he was "going crazy not seeing dd, & going to blow & it wouldnt be good for me or the doctor, & I could take those as threats if i wanted to".


DD called him once in a week or so, & he still isnt calling her at all.


So, ... onward ... lol

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Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:37pm
Well, hopefully he'll make this appt and there will be some sort of positive progression for you.

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 5:38am
Okay - keep us posted. My fingers are crossed for you as they always are. I think you are handling it the best you can and that this is a good way to go - much better than launching an expensive legal battle - and if you choose to do that later on you are going to have more ammunition with all of these psych visits. Or at the very best you will get a slight improvement as the exh learns a few lessons and maybe can get at least guided calls for her.
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:05am

I will be thinking about you tomorrow morning--I hope something definate will happen with this appointment!

April

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:22am

Rebecca, be proud of yourself and the way you are handling all of this.

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:31am

Thanks for the encouragement, all of you.


Your right Moon, it IS wearing on me. I guess i truly KNEW it had to be done, stopping visitation, but i also didnt think it would take this long for him to do something about seeing her. & Lord knows, one meeting isnt going to "fix it" all. & although Averey has done really well, its starting to really wear on her as well. She is really missing him - but i know she is missing the dad she USED to know, not the Dad he has become.


Its sort of a case here of knowing whats best for your child & having NO choice but to follow thru, even though she is hurt by it. But this hurt, of missing him, is FAR LESS damaging long term, than the continued emotional abuse he was subjecting her to. Her counselor keeps reminding me of that - as do all of you.

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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:40am
It is called "due process" - and you are chugging along. Rome wasn't built in a day either!
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:45am
Best of luck to you. I suppose since he made the appt he wont then mistake it for the wrong week? Let's hope so!! I think for her to be in or out of his life, he kind of needs to show but that is just my opinion. I cant imagine how this wouldnt be wearing on you - its good that you can acknowledge that it is and face all of it head on, even if you are weary. I think if you were to put on the "everything is just peachy" face it would be even more exhausting - been there done that!!
Sending good thoughts in your direction as always...
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 8:36pm

Also will be thinking of you tomorrow here, and hoping for some positive outcome.

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 12:30am

Hi again. To preface, I am a stable and responsible person who has been in the same field for 7 years and the same house (MY townhome)

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 12:39am

No! Never. Can you imagine her sitting in school worrying about it? One if my biggest issues with her father was HE woudl tell her everything. I would be picking her up from his house & he would announce to her "Averey, hope i get to see you again someday b/c Mommy is taking me to court today & telling the judge Im a bad person", etc.

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