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Note- Thurs AM meeting with psyc & X -
| Tue, 01-29-2008 - 11:16pm |
psyc called to say that X was able to fit his appt into what we (psyc & I) were avaliable. Its Thurs AM.
X has been pretty quiet since the threats last week via phone that he was "going crazy not seeing dd, & going to blow & it wouldnt be good for me or the doctor, & I could take those as threats if i wanted to".
DD called him once in a week or so, & he still isnt calling her at all.
So, ... onward ... lol







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Like everyone else, I feel for you going thru this BUT
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Since I have missed a lot of the story, I have to ask...Why are you going to counseling together? As an outsider, it seems to just be a perpetuation of you taking care of him, particularly since you pay for him to attend. He also seems to use this opportunity to take out his anger on you and refuse to acknowledge his own fault.
In my situation, not speaking for yours, I had to realize that he is
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
I too am glad that he at least voiced those feelings TO the psyc, as to why he cant get over this at this point. He did take responsibility finally, saying he knows that he treated me badly in the marriage .... he didnt say "abuse" ... in fact, when i brought up early in the appt, that Averey had counseling at the Domestiv Violence Center, he laughed & said "Please, like YOU were ABUSED". He does NOT count pushing, shoving, poking, lifting me up by the neck, hairpulling & EXTREME verbal & emotional abuse, AND threats to kill me, as Domestic Violence. & I think that until he comes to terms with THAT, he really wont "get it". Or have any real remorse. Im afraid that his remorse is for what HE lost, not what he DID.
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
lol, if wasnt "Nice" after THAT breakdown, I think I finally have gotten balls of steel!
Thanks for the wine offer ... I helped myself!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
Thank you- yes, *I* am impressed i stayed so strong too! It MUST be b/c i am so much more detached than i used to be ... a year ago i would have BAWLED with him.
Thankfully I didnt see Averey until hours later -- I had an interview out of town & didnt return home till 9pm ... so i had 11 hours to de-stress, lol.
Yes, i OFTEN wonder how i was actually in love with (or THOUGHT i was) him, & married to him. Now i know iw as just trying to FIX him. Save him. Whatever.
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