NOW I think I see it

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
NOW I think I see it
1
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 9:08pm

Well I deleted the local guy from match. His second email is telling me about the ages of his kids and asking where I live - we are both in the SAME city - does it really matter this soon into the game WHICH neighborhood we live in - and what the age of my son is.

And then I looked at his profile again. He states he is very affectionate even in public so the other person has to be comfortable with that. I mean - I like affection and adore foreplay and all that good stuff - could stay in bed all day with the right person - but isnt't that something that should happen naturally?

I am really looking for adult time out - going to dinner, working out, watching a movie. I am NOT looking for the one or marrying a house - and that is just the vibe I got. And he has three small kids - all smaller than mine. He also has a conflicting religion - which normall I would overlook since I am not going to have more children - but that is one more nail.

DELETE!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 11:24pm

I love this post, not only because it shows that you truly do know what you're looking for, but it also brings to light some red flags some of our other OLD'ers might overlook.

I especially like the fact that you really looked at his profile. I would do this too- really pick it apart. If you're finding things that aren't compatible before you even meet, what's the point in continuing? For me, the major things were always children (and desire or the lack thereof for more), employment/income (I have an issue with someone making a TON more than me), religion (anyone who's extreme in any direction wouldn't be compatible with my lifestyle), and obviously distance (tried dating outside my distance comfort zone once, {Spec} and I ended up overanalyzing everything).

We each have our triggers- what we absolutely can NOT live with/without. Knowing what yours are is half the battle.

Kudos to you for knowing yours, and for sharing with all of us, we can all learn from this!

Moody, who has her triggers under control


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