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| Wed, 02-07-2007 - 8:42pm |
Okay - I just posted that some men are looking for something that doesn't exist. I mean, I have read so many dodo posts from the most popular dating site - remember the funny one from a few days ago that gave us a lecture so we don't say we don't want a douche bag?
WELL - I decided to go back in there and do a "reverse" search - that is guys who would be looking for my stats. Just to read a few profiles and copy them in here. I just wanted to illustrate that if someone doesn't call you back it DOES NOT mean you are a flop - it just means they are never going to find what they are looking for - or they have to make themselves happy instead of trying to find someone to make them happy.
DISCLAIMER: I swear I didn't make these up!!
45 - heavyset - never been married: "am not really looking for a long term relationship, of course if i happen to meet the right woman i would setle down, but i enjoy being single.I like all kinds of women so everyone that wants a man should give me a try.but be ready to have a good time.keep in mind that i like naked.a woman that like to have sex.I am not a pewrvert or anything but i enjoy sex a lot so a woman has to like it too in order for us to be a good match." (WHO wants to be with a man who just wants all kinds of women to have sex with him, never mind that he is overweight!)
51 - never married: "I am just an average guy in looks but above average in caring. I treat people the way I would like to be treated. I treat a women like I would want any women in my family treated. With respect and thoughtfullness. I can be a little bit of a bad boy at the proper time. But, most of the time you will find me very easy going. No games no drama please! Trust and honesty are a very big part of a relationship. If you don't have that you have nothing. I am not a player by any standard." (I think he has major issues with relationships if he hasn't been married and has THIS rhetoric)
42 - writes "NO COMMENT on relationship, have kids, want kids!!":beach lover world traveler business owner...would love to spoil the right woman...love a woman who is full of life...spontaneous...willing to go to the Keys or St Maarten at the drop of a hat.
(WHO can travel on the drop of a hat?)
46 - divorced, writes: "I am a down to earth person, hard-working, reliable and stable. I am looking for someone who is similar, a professional who takes her job seriously but yet likes to occasionally travel to interesting countries or places. I am intelligent, open minded, good natured and would prefer the same." (to me that means he wants someone who works all the time like he does and just takes a once in a while getaway for sex)
Okay - that is it for now because I am getting that repulsed itch on my finger that wants to close that horrid online dating window!! LOL!! But seriously - this is just from the first page of matches - it is not like I went digging.
I hope I made my point okay - maybe you guys will even find some more.
BUT you see, not every guy wants a relationship or is capable of one. GIRLS - it is them not you. Please don't get sad when they don't call. Just keep on going.

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Geesh- I wonder if these guys are actually getting hits!
Great selection there, West! Which one are you having dinner with first? Mr Porky? Mr Ugly? Mr Playboy? or Mr Workoholic?
The thing that amazes me on dating sites is guys who post their photo, say they're married, and then say they want some fun, no strings attached. I mean, where are their wives? Even if the wife is a technophobe, surely she has friends who are not, and could see the guy's photo up there looking for nooky!
What a weird old world.
Clem xx
Good post... probably why I prefer the bar scene to online dating ... but now I see why at least online you can see what's going on in their head... MEN....
I'm thankful that I've learned it is NOT me and I keep moving on.
LB
If it were me, I wouldn't cut off the online dating thing. Yeah, I know, the profiles are horrible. However, there are some decent people online. It's open to everyone, so you have to sort through all of it.
Ha!! Have you ever looked at the female profiles?? I used to when I was checking out the "competition" or wanted a few laughs. There are some train wrecks out there. There are also tons and tons of russian bride phishing scams on OLD sites. There isn't a man out there online who hasn't been contacted by one of these scammers. They will have a super glamorous photo, poor english, and will claim to live in your town...but, really, they are in russia somewhere. they introduce themselves to men and ask for money right away. I've heard this from every man I've ever interviewed on his experience with OLD. Decent guys have to put up with phishing and scammers to find legit women online.
I think I'm a little naive in reading the online descriptions!
Holy crap, do I ever agree with you! In fact, EVERY guy I have ever spoken to who has tried OLD has been contacted by a Russian woman, looking for money and possibly a ticket into the US. I'm willing to bet these women would go so far as to marry any poor sap willing to let her, in exchange for a green card.
Also, EVERY guy (even friends) I've talked to has had Horrible dates with women who are whack jobs. I haven't had that pleasure (well, I don't date women, but no male whack jobs for me, either). Obviously, my own informal survey is telling me that as a woman I have had better success finding relatively decent people- even if they aren't right for me- than most men. This makes me think logically that more crazy women are out there than men.
Doesn't necessarily make OLD easier for us than them, but at least our odds of finding a whack job is slightly better than theirs.
Moody, glad she's not a man, for SO many reasons
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I'm just going to keep on trying to lead as full a life as possible because I can't let my sense of well being and happiness be tied in to if I'm dating someone anyhow. Men have caused me nothing but heartache and pain anyway, I personally think that men of quality are a dying breed or an endangered spiecies, only the truly lucky get to have one :-)
Queen- I think I know that guy! Not really, the widower I know actually admits to being a widower, but then says he's taken some time off after his wife's death- he posted the profile 3!!!! days after she died. Also, he says his kids are the most important thing to him, and that he drinks socially. The guy's kids live with his siter because he's a raging alcoholic and can't control himself or his actions. From his profile, he would seem like an honest, lonely guy who maybe hasn't had enough time to deal but was a good person and a good father. It couldn't be further form the truth, IMO.
Conversely, I have seen the profiles of women I know who are really normal and fine, but when I read their profiles, I couldn't help but think they seemed just a little insane. I always type mine up, then review it several times. I also periodically edit it, just to make sure it's really reflective of who I am. Too bad everyone doesn't do this!
Moody, reminded to scratch axe-murderer off her profile. (JK!! I use a chainsaw- JOKE!!!!)
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