Oh boy....!!!!

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Oh boy....!!!!
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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:47pm

Be careful what you look for…you may find

Cat

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:41pm

Hmmm..... that would make me want to think that he does not want to be exclusive with me and he wants to keep looking til he finds one better. How many dates have you gone on with him? Have you two talked about being exclusive?

His situation is sort of up in the air with the school thing - so maybe he just is not as serious about settling down.

What would you want him to do?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:49pm
Looks like fate stepped in for you girlie! There's a reason that you had the urge to go on that site.
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Registered: 10-09-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:06pm
He's actually not in school, just working out of town during the week.
Cat
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:11pm

We've been together for 14 months and have been exclusive the entire time


(((HUGS))) to you!

April

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:35pm

OH NO - I confused you with the one with the law student! SORRY!!

OH MY GOODNESS. I would not like that after all you have endured. And I would not believe that story. And I like what Isymoon says - there is a reason you were fed up and went on that site.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:42pm

And if you like motorcycles then you are in business - there are a LOT on there who have them!! You are a brave girl!! I will even send you mine from here that have those.

I am thinking more and I think you need one who is here now ready now - who can give you the attention. I mean, how fun is it to have him say he doesn't want to talk to you because he misses home and then you have to wonder if he is making plans with you the following weekend and then you have to see him on POF and the whole job thing is shaky.

I only know what you type - but I just think YOU deserve some really good things. I know there are always a few jiggers to put up with . But that seems to be a lot and getting worse.

Maybe think about it for a night or two and then tell us more of what is going through your head.

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 2:50pm

I figured that...no worries!


Yes, I think I was meant to find out.

Cat
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 3:03pm

Cat!!!


Oh my goodness! I would have been shocked too. You were right to confront him. I would get this all out tomorrow and then be done with it. All the pulling away, and telling you to chill, and not being there for you in an affectionate and connecting way...and now this. Strike three or is that four? He's out. And I am sorry.. I know that you said that he has become important to you, as a friend and support system too. I wish things were different!


Hugs..

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-09-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 3:15pm

Thanks, Pac! The thing is, I'll still see him a few times a month since we both belong to the same motorcycle club.

Cat
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 3:15pm

Strike three he is out - that is what I would say - although you know I am quick with the trigger and do not have the emotional investment as our OP.

BUT, I would be inclined to develop a rather poison email - this is not working for me and it is better if we part ways - rather than go through a long drawn out drama of why he did that and giving him the chance to break up. HA!

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