Oh Boy

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Oh Boy
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 5:29pm

I got an invitation for lunch today from Jeff (the single dad that I knew through my ex). He told me that he recently switched jobs, he's closer to where I work now, and it will be easier to meet for lunch. He told me not to tell Mark (my ex) about his new job, because he wants to tell him himself. I told Jeff that the last time I spoke to Mark was a week ago, I kind of yelled at him and figured he would stop calling. Jeff asked me what happened and I told him that I told Mark what a jerk he was and how much he hurt me and how all he does when he calls me is get me down with his same old line of BS, and I told him not to call me any more. I told Jeff I didn't want to talk about Mark any more when we go lunch, etc., because I'm putting him behind me and I'm moving on. He said not that you don't look great, but since you are starting over, you should get a new hair style. I asked him why he said that (because Mark told me the last time he saw he that I should get a new haircut). He said all he meant was that I should do something special for myself, like go to a salon, or get a massage or something like that; or do something that I always wanted to do or meant to do but never did. I kind of got a laugh out of it. As we were walking out, he apologized again for the comment, and he said he didn't mean anything by it because he thinks I'm beautiful. I thanked him for the compliment and said that it was very nice. He said, oh come on, don't give me that, you have to know that you are very attractive. (I know I was blushing). All I said was that my self-esteem was a little down lately. We got to the front of the building and we were going in opposite directions. He gave me a hug, which lasted a little too long, and I thought he was going to kiss me right there out on Michigan Avenue. LOL I was a little surprised, so I pulled away. We said goodbye and I walked to work wondering "what just happened there -- this is just supposed to be lunch between two friends --

I've been in such a crabby mood this week because in my kindness of helping my cousin out of his break-up funk, all I did was put myself into my own funk because I kept thinking about Mark. Lunch today was a nice diversion. There's nothing like compliments and flattery to boost a woman's spirits. I always enjoy my convesrations with Jeff -- he's so nice and he has a son, so he understands where I am coming from. We want to go out other than lunch sometime, but he's booked up until the end of October. Maybe it's better that way -- he can cool down a little bit -- and I can decide whether I'm ready for a date. Being friends is sooo much easier.

Thanks for listening.

Donna

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 6:41pm

Well this is certainly a breath of fresh air.

It is nice for you to get attention and compliments and you never know what will come tomorrow. But we will certainly want to know!! Keep us posted!!

Thanks for the update!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: momoftwins65
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 7:58pm

Sometimes a nice little diversion is exactly what you need. :)

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