Oh my date book is so swamped! NOT....
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Oh my date book is so swamped! NOT....
| Tue, 02-19-2008 - 3:42pm |
Ok, so lately, I have stayed away from dating anyone. I of course broke down a few weekends ago and had my FWB, but we haven't communicated outside of the looking for houses thing. I think he suddenly found himself getting too close. He seems to be acting strangely, not at all as he once

You know Im so leery of trying the online dating thing, especially because i live in a small community and work in another small community about 1 hour away so
Well I definitely know he's not that. He works for Bank of America and we lease space in the BofA Building. He just happens to be in the same building. BUT! I may have seen him or taken the elevator with him. I've been there two years and so has he, so who knows.
I wrote him a lengthy email and when I sent it a out of office came on, so
Quasimoto...hehe, hey what ever happened to him? Did I miss something?
Well if things work out and you meet with the guy from your building that would be cool.
Well wouldn't you know it! I got the ugly guy! He did post a pic on his profile but since I wasn't a member and it was only on trial weekend, I decided to give it a whirl, but the catch was... no pics to see. :(
Anyway, yes, I got the unattractive intelligent geek who seems very responsible, etc. Now that I was with Nascar, who looked cute, I am sad that I have a unattractive guy again. He just doesn't look like he takes that good care of his bod and it irritates me a little, because in one of his questions, he specifically asked how much I excercised, etc. WHY is it that men seem to think they don't have to
"Needless to say, I didn't let him know what I thought about his pic. I just said it looked like he was really enjoying himself in them and I hoped he had a good trip and I would talk to him when he got back."
LOL!! That is very diplomatic!!
Here is what EH says about physical attraction - don't know if this helps or not:
Little Physical Attraction = Deal Breaker?
As human beings, we are made to feel physical attraction. It is one of our most powerful mate selection criteria. Much of eHarmony’s philosophy regarding relationships has to do with placing physical attraction lower on our list of selection criteria, because when looking at “long-term” relationship success, physical attraction doesn’t rank very high.
In other words, when talking to couples that have been successfully married for many years they rarely list “physical attraction” as one of the core issues that has led to their success.
In addition, it’s a sad fact that today in society people often use physical attraction as their “only” gauge of whether to pursue a relationship. This notion is reinforced constantly by our media and leads to large numbers of shallow, dysfunctional and ultimately failed relationships. Having said all that, we do believe that physical attraction is germane to a healthy, successful relationship and discourage relationships between two people who get along great, appear to be compatible and yet have no “spark.” Building a great relationship without the excitement and attraction that comes from passionate love is impossible.
Remember, a “great person” is not a “great person for you” unless they meet your needs and desires in a partner. You needn’t feel guilty about your lack of physical chemistry with a person. In fact, you’re acting compassionately by letting them know you’re not attracted, (gently, no need to be blunt here) so they can find someone who does find him or her physically appealing.