Oh my gosh, my Saturday wine...

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Oh my gosh, my Saturday wine...
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 10:03am

did not bid well. I was so ill again after two glasses that I got sick and the worst headache for days.

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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:10am
sorry to hear about the wine thing. I am officially not drinking anything ever again based on my last one glass of wine and then physical fiasco situation. It stinks but I think I am safer just saying no and it is good it doesnt matter to me that much anyhow since I only have ever had a glass of wine every once in a while. I went out with bf to a great little italian place over the weekend and reaaallly craved a good red with my pasta though. I just have had to come to terms with the fact that the risk isnt worth it with everything else I have to do on a daily basis that cant afford me getting ill!!
Hope you feel better soon...
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:13am
I guess I forgot to mention that my parents after the divorce raised us all as one happy family. My dad remarried and we all had holidays, weekends, birthdays together. Unfortunately, my mother was extremely in love with my father to this day. And it's been 28 years. She was NEVER ever able to let go and that is why she maintained that relationship with my Dad until he got stationed someplace else. But THEN his new wife, became the X wife because she couldn't handle the constant interraction of my parents. I felt also very confused by that entire relationship. It didn't particularly make me happy, it just confused me. My mother was so sad and crying and depressed. She never got over that he left. It was just unhealthy for her. I saw the pain it cost and maybe that is why I too would feel insecure in that sort of relationship, because I lived it with my own parents. A clean break would have been much better.
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:15am

sorry if I stepped on your toes.


You didn't step on my toes, but you disrespected my time, which if I Recall, is a very big thing for you.

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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:20am

I think I asked about thoughts and if it was just me who was intolerant. So I guess, you answered my question. Which I guess would be a yes. :) Didn't mean to waste your time. It wasn't my intention.


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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:23am
I am sure this explains why we would be uncomfortable in this situation....it's our histories more than anything and for the record I think this is a VERY interesting topic of discussion.
How do we let our parents divorce influence who we date now in single parents land?
It isnt that I dont accept there are good situations with amicable divorces out there. I just dont know that I am capable of telling the difference between a situation like our parents had which I think wasnt good for everyone involved and the good situation where everyone is balanced and happy. Some of the things that make it unbalanced are hard to spot as an outsider and I would feel like an outsider. And what if I gave the benefit of the doubt, got it wrong and by then I am emotionally involved? I would be like those guys that were in love with my mom but couldnt get her to totally let go...
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:44am

Well dating has definitely become much different now a days. There are so many different ways of raising your children. Like you, I was also in a different situation to the norm, but now-a-days there seem to be many more out of the norms that are turning norm. I think this thread is very interesting because it makes me wonder how we set our boundaries, if any when it comes to raising our children with our X's. I wouldn't want to discuss my personal life with my X or have him involved in my personal life. I am just wondering everyone's fine line. I wouldn't want the relationship that my family had. It was harder, but I wouldn't want the relationship that my Dad ended up having with his third wife. Which was none at all. It was just too major extremes. One was all buddy buddy and one big huge happy family that seemed odd and the other one was suddenly

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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:04pm
Hahahah missy!!! LOL.
 
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:13pm

LOL! So (don't hit me) playing devils advocate..

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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:19pm

I have that sort of relationship with my ex and we are NOT interested in getting back together.

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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:30pm

See, I agree as far as birthday parties or school functions go. Again, maybe a BBQ or something simple. I think it's ok to have it that way with some athletic activities, but I would think that a schedule to an extent is pretty much set. I knew and my X knew right away when my kids slept, or what they wore or when they ate. After a few discussions, it was pretty clear. I didn't see a need to call or email every few minutes regarding something. To me ONE long email for the week should be sufficient. As far as the X calling, I think age depends. My oldest can dial my X's number and for my youngest,