Oh.....What A Day!!
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| Wed, 11-16-2005 - 12:56am |
Went to court today and boy was it ever tiring! The good news is that everything worked in my favor, for the most part.
My ex and all his so called witnesses were caught lying so many times that it was unreal. However, I believe the judge knew it too.
I was granted my r/o, which is good. However, they did turn the whole thing into a custody hearing. My lawyer was prepared though with info stating that a judge in a different county has no jurisdiction (sp) over another judge when a case and/or custody is pending. However, the judge ruled a temporary visitation schedule starting immediately. But I think that's a good thing though. At least now I have documentation stating when and where my dd is to go and when she comes home. The only thing that bothers me is that stbx also gets one overnight visit during each week along with every other weekend. So, every other week he will get dd 3 nights instead of 2. But, when the other judge finally signs the divorce decree with the pending visitation plan then the other one will be voided. Therefore, stbx will only get every other weekend with no extra day in the week.
I know that he will keep dd for a while on his days but eventually get tired of her like he did before. Maybe this is all working in my favor. I'm scared for her though...but I'm very overprotective anyway.
The funny thing that happened in court today was that while stbx's father was lying on the stand, I stared at him the whole time, and mouthed to him "you're a liar." Guess what he did - he actually BARKED at me. How weird and childish! Was a bark supposed to intimidate me? All it did was disrupt everything and show how truly crazy these people are!
I'm worried about how this weekend will be without dd. I'll probably go out of my mind without her. Any suggestions on how to bide the time away until I get her back?
Thanks for all the support too! You all are the greatest!
Kait

Oh I am soooooo glad you went through with it!!!
Just keep busy when dd is with her father at first, then when you have adjusted, try some relaxation and pampering for yourself. You are very luck to have some time for yourself, trust me I wish I had more than 3 hours every week that I get. He may end up like my ex and tire of the weekend thing, it cuts into their social life, so who knows in the future if he ends up taking all the time with her that he's supposed to anyway. Stay strong, you're on the right track.
That is a giant step forward for you and all good news. You just have to weather the rest of it but I believe it will all be easier now.
Your exh is a jerk for sure.
I just want to thank everyone for their support through all of this. It was so difficult to go through with it, but I did, and I feel so good now. I actually feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders.
I'm going to be VERY prepared if there is a "next time" with my ex. I've already gotten a notebook and will record every instance that happens between him and me. If he's five minutes late to pick her up, I will document it, if he does anything to me, that will be documented too.
I'm nervous about my dd going away. I'm afraid that she'll think I just left and abandoned her. But she does need to know who her father is, even if he isn't the best person in the world. Hopefully he will treat her like a father should and keep her safe. I have no doubt that she will be okay - it's me that he wants to hurt, not her.
So, this weekend, I'll just keep busy, somehow! It will be hard at first without her, but I'm sure within a few weeks or so of this arrangement everything will become routine. The other judge will sign off on the divorce and other visitation schedule and dd won't have to be gone as much. I just wish that all of this never had to happen. It's not fair that my dd has to go through all of this - but life isn't always fair.
Again, thank you all so much. The support that all of you have given me helped give me the strength to face my ex and stand up for myself! (It's about time I did if I do say so myself!)
Kait,
(((((HUGS)))))
YOU DID IT GIRL!
See, you faced him, stood your ground and you won the battle!