Ok Judy, I want UPDATE. LOL
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Ok Judy, I want UPDATE. LOL
| Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:29am |
How's things going with Fireman? See him lately? Weekend plans? Yes, I know, I'm horribly nosy!
| Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:29am |
Okay I'm nosey too! Yes please update honey! :)
Jennifer
Well, we are sort of going along nicely - he calls from the station when he is working. Today he was off so we rode our bikes and had lunch at my house - which was incredibly hectic with the phone and my helpers. But that is okay because that is me!
I am getting ready for my biggest race this weekend - leaving tomorrow - going crazy to pack stuff. He wants me to call him and I said okay but you can call me too!! So we will stay in touch by phone.
So far so good....
Just wanted to add one more thing - for some reason I am happy being me and while I like him quite well, and this is a first for me, he is not the centerpiece of the table - I am - if you know what I mean.
I have a son, business to run and my training. And he is going to fit in around that. It takes time to build a relationship and that is what I intend to do - take my time and see if we jive, not change myself to make him happy. I do see a lot of things in common and I also see a few differences - and those are all okay - it is kind of fun to keep getting to know each other.
For some reason I think they respect you more and want to be with you more that way. I was just talking to my helper and long time friend - she was here and got to meet him. I have watched her do the same thing with her boyfriend for 2 years and she has been an inspiration to me.
Anyway, it was fun because she and her aunt were here and after he left I ran into the back room to hear what they thought - they said - he is HOT!
Anyway, I can totally relate with what you are saying and I think you are going about it perfectly. Where are you going this week? How long is the marathon again?
We are going to Disney this weekend - all of my friends are going and so is DS. I have to run 13 miles in the heat - so that should keep me quite busy!
I thought I would list our "alikes" and "differences" that we have discovered so far. I mean I have no idea where this is going to take us but it will be fun to discover. We both seem to be good so far at letting each other know things we like and don't like and that is good - I like communication.
Alike:
- being active outdoors - hiking, biking, snorkeling
- eating healthy - he loves my cooking
- working but having a balanced life for fun
- laughing and humor
- music
- being affectionate
- mostly positive outlook on life
- family is important but not everything
- vacation tastes
- being careful and responsible
- dogs - we both have and love dogs
- spiritual but not religious
- both same age
Differences:
- I am a computer geek and he is not - probably not a biggie
- I am more ambitious with life and learning; although I am much more settled from my younger days, I have just done and experienced and pushed the envelope a lot more than him.
- affluence/things - I have more
- schedules - he works one day on and has 2 days off - which is great because he has lots of time when he is off - but I still have to get "some" work done - which he saw today and respected so that is okay
- drinking - I am almost a teetotaler and he likes his beer as I posted. I have to observe this over time as we all discussed. He only drank one glass of wine the other evening and had a take it or leave it attitude so that was good. And I did explain to him that I don't drink in front of DS so there is no beer here. I think the thing is that he is used to going fishing with the buddies on some days off and they do that - not sure the scope and believe me the delete key is ready if I deem necessary
- kid - I have a kid and am tied and committed to that 100% but so far he respects that
Well, the thing is that I am not approaching it like a hot affair. I used to only do stuff with bfs when I didn't have DS and you know what that was - it was always like being on a honey moon. This one has time for me and I want to develop a good friendship and do a lot of other stuff besides just have sex. And we are two strangers who met only 2 weeks ago. And now that we are doing different stuff we are learning about each other. And although there are wonderful similarities, there are differences, too.
I think when you meet a friend it is that way. You start out doing fun things and learn your likes and differences over time.
Edited 5/17/2007 4:49 pm ET by cl-west1745
he is not the centerpiece of the table
Bravo, Judy!
~s~