ok, now i have to ask. :)

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ok, now i have to ask. :)
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:15pm
I have to ask now...am I the only caucasian woman on the bb that prefers men of color/ethnicity?
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 12:07pm

ROTFL...Grad students seem to discuss theories and sex when they drink. One night there was a theory presented about hand size related to "packing". LOL

Marilyn, that is kind of a big deal (no pun intended) in a relationship. I wish there was a tactful way to know about the issue up front (again, no pun intended) before you spend a lot of time getting to know someone.

Yes, bad bad me, size definitely matters.

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 12:38pm
I can tell you from my "research" lol, that the size of the package has directly correlated with height, and size of hands, feet, and sometimes nose. LOL
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 12:45pm

Well, my honey has it, including the nose LOL.

I definitely meant size by using the word "packin" - as if you didn't guess. I said that because along with my ex-h height, he also was not very big and was literally the 1 min man. I didn't have much sexual experience, so I believed size didn't matter, it was the way you use it. Well, he didn't use it well either. After my divorce and testing the waters - size is definitely it. Also, top it off with the way you use it. I love the Viking looking men. My husband has everything I wrote about when I wrote what I wanted in the next man I married.

Sooooo.....;) LOL

Marilyn

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 12:48pm

I totally agree! I definitely have a "thing" for tall men (and dark hair). Although I didn't necessarily discount shorter men (My ex is 5'10.), when I was dating I tended to pick the guys who were 6' and above.

I did date one man that was 5'9, 3" taller than me, he was handsome and resembled Matt Damon. I figured I could give him a shot, except he turned out to be a bit controlling and since I like to wear big shoes, I couldn't picture me looking down at him when we were arguing. LOL

And I went out once with a guy who told me he was 5'9" but ended up being more like 5'5" and that definitely didn't do it for me. He had very small features in general and I felt big next to him. Definitely want my guy to be bigger than me!

I've been doing a lot of reminiscing about my dating life lately and have gotten a lot of laughs out of it. I realized that during my 1 ½ years of craziness, I dated over 18 men... only 4 of which actually went beyond 3rd date. At the time I was quite frustrated with the ones who ended up being creeps, or liars, or whatever the bad thing of the week was, but now I realize that I actually had quite a bit of fun!

BTW, My SO is 6'4", and has big hands, big feet, and big everything. ;)

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 12:58pm
I know EXACTLY what you mean and feel the same way! But I can also say that “too much” of a good thing can be just as bad as not enough. For example, 9 ½ inches was TOO much (well, for me anyway) LOL.
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 1:02pm
After reading my post I realized that some of you might think I actually slept with all 18 men…I just want to clarify that is NOT the case. I mean, not that there's anything wrong with that...but no... LOL
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 1:04pm
Dirty? Definitely! Old? Now come on I'm 32! ;)
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:12pm
which begs the question, "so how did you KNOW?" Did you just say "hey...before we...ummm..."
LOL
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:28pm

that's hilarious. I wish it had correlated that well for me. Race is also supposed to be a factor, but I haven't found that true either.

My ex, white, tall and big and used it only for him.

Other guys I've dated...VERY varied.

white, short ht, small hands, small, KNEW what to do otherwise, very creative
black, short ht, big hands, medium...was lazy about doing anything with it
black, tall ht, big hands, medium...was just plain weird, never got around to doing it.
Black, tall ht, big hands, medium to big, too much of a crook for me to WANT to find out!
biracial, tall ht, big hands, medium...knew what to do
white, medium ht, big hands, small...minute man

and the current MAN, biracial, short to medium ht, small feet, small hands, NOT small otherwise, knows it ALL and knows how to USE it *sigh*...breaks ALL the rules, don't it?

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:41pm
do hispanic men pack?