Ok, is this a red flag and if so......

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Ok, is this a red flag and if so......
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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 10:28am
Ok, I am so proud of myself.
 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 1:54am

Just to add my 2 cents... you may want to do a little more checking around on other dating web sites.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 10:40am

I am and will continue to keep an eye out on the sites just to make sure but I do feel he is good.

 
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 3:28pm

Let's set everything else aside and just look at this comment: Besides who do you know that would drop over $700 on a suit for basically what is a date and still be looking for someone else?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:44pm
All valid points but not so much for this particular situation.
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2007
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:53pm

I think he hasn't had much luck dating and has just turned the dating websites into a way to beat boredom.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 4:35pm
I don't know - my first reaction is I don't like this - especially when a relationship is so new. There are a thousand other things he can do for boredom. I would worry that he is not that into me if I was you. But I guess all you can do now is wait and see and keep an eye on it.
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Registered: 10-01-2007
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 5:46pm

Newbie here chiming in - lol.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 10:02pm

It hurts me to even type this. This is what ended it for me and my ex bf. Nearly exact same situation. He met me on fitnesssingles. We became serious and exclusive. I took my profile offline. but he left his online with a blurb on it that he was taken. I was a little concerned but accepted that. Then in Feb I had a funny feeling about it. I went online and found him on fitnesssingles but he removed the taken blurb. So he was on there and active and available. We had other problems but this was the straw that broke...

If yours in online with an account and looking at other women it shows his lack of commitment to you. There's a big difference between a glimpse at a pretty woman that walks by and visiting and maintaining an account on an internet dating site. Commitment means stopping looking and chatting and working on the relationship at hand.

Plus you should always trust your gut instinct. But ask him first. Give him the benefit of the doubt.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 10:21pm

Be ware of the old 'boredom' excuse. Mine used that too. But there are enough general web sites to keep a guy busy for a bit so he doesnt have to resort to dating sites. Mine used the boredom excuse, then the 'I was only looking at guys' BS, then he said he was only on it one time since we met. The excuses kept coming and changing. By then I stopped listening.

Laurie

anonymous

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