OK since we're dishing about ex husbands

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 10:03am

My 15-year-old dd and I have been having "issues" for over a month because she was skipping school and her grades were in the toilet.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:37pm

These are the issues I have been trying to get into her head!

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:48pm

Ugh. Teenagers.


I see NO sense in their theory about grades - seems to me they are just being stupid AND kissing her butt.


Im sorry. But all you can do, as you said, is continue to love her, support her BUT be the parent she needs - & yes, if that means discipline, then do be it. AND, yes, lead by example. In the end, she WILL appreciate it AND benefit from it.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:49pm
Well, i have an idea. If she is CHOOSING to miss out on your "punishment" by escaping to her dads ... how about taking the cell phone away after all?

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:50pm
Ah, should have read thru the thread 1st, lol.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 1:53pm

It's painful that she'll go behind my back to her father when I try to enforce rules or even have her help out around the house.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 2:13pm
As hard as it may be for you Issy, you have to stand your ground. She IS old enough to know what she is doing is WRONG, & she SHOULD feel some guilt about it.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 3:05pm
I so relate isys! Mine's 14 and she's driving me nuts. When you take her cell phone away be prepared and pray everyday! lol My dd14 had her's taken away the first part of November and just got hers back the end of March. I thought I was going to pull my hair out. It's like they go into withdrawal or something. Mine is also in counseling and I'm just now letting her have a little freedom with her time, but I worry the whole time she's not at home and it's causing me to get greyer by the minute.
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 3:21pm

You know the bad part of grounding from the parent's point of view, is that we are stuck with a very unhappy teenager! Sometimes I think the punishment is harder on us than them! Although they would beg to differ...
Steph

Edited 4/4/2008 3:24 pm ET by texas_mom1991




Edited 4/4/2008 3:25 pm ET by texas_mom1991
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 3:25pm
You said it sister. We were at each other's throats most of the time. Plus she was angry with her dad and wouldn't see him so she was with me just about the whole time. That's why you have to pray ALOT!
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 3:30pm

"That's why you have to pray ALOT!"

and keep a good supply of Xanax!! ;-)