OK West and Ali...We want Scoopage

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OK West and Ali...We want Scoopage
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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 6:54pm

Alison- As soon as you come up for air we want an update on you and S!!


And West--- I know you are one busy mom coming back from camping. You probably haven't even had time to clean the tent and put it away. But when you get settled in let us know how things are with Karateman. Did you come home to some nice messges? Do tell!

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:59pm
Well, like Queenie said, you take the time to get to know them and decide if you want to be having sex with them or not... which is a good angle to take- rather than jumping into the sack and trying to make things work because we've connected with sex and want more of that!

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 9:09pm
I saw him on your Freindsbook thing!

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 9:13pm

Is this Karate Man? I forget! lol

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 9:35pm

Yes - KarateMan - who is now history man. No worries - it is just what dating is - you date someone to see if you like them and to see if they fit.

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:26pm
Lol- yeah, he whined about every picture taken LOL!

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:28pm
You and I keep switching - LOL - I dump one and at the same time you start one anew - and they catch us in the same update!! I hope yours has better luck than mine. But really I am not upset - just relieved that I acted right away on my intuition and am happy to be by myself.
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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 9:42am

Good for you!

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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 10:46am

Thanks.

I was having a conversation with my friend this morning and I told her that if I had had a lot to choose from when dating him I would not have taken a second date because of my initial reaction to his clothes and some other things he said. But the receded pond of my age group tends to make many want to make a feast out of a crumb. I have decided I really need to stick to my own level with money, education, accomplishments and mindset and not date down just because someone is attracted to me. I also need someone athletic - not someone who is suffering from decades of poor life choices. Because these are all the things I bring to the table.

So, this morning when the clock went off at 5AM and I didn't want to get out of bed I said - hey - you have to get your butt out of the house and be more social with the type of person you want to be social with. And off to the pool I went.

I spent my 20s just hanging out with FWB types and not ever giving a hoot about who I dated or what I wanted. Then I got unlucky with my marriage choice and spent a decade regretting it. Now the slate is clean - and I do not have a clock ticking - and I don't want to waste time with someone whom I am not going to respect over time or who is not going to be a good match.

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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 11:08am

"and not date down just because someone is attracted to me."


I think that's a really important point to make and one I ask myself of every guy I think about dating, "am I dating this guy because he engages me, excites me and intrigues me... or am I dating him because he's the only guy giving me the time of day?"


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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 12:22pm

Westie - I just got through this thread.