Okay, here's the thing...

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Okay, here's the thing...
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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 7:48pm

Like I posted a couple of days ago, I'm seeing this new guy, who is really sweet.

BUT....

This other guy, who I've like for sooooo very long (who happens to be a doctor..lol) just called me and asked me out on a date for Saturday night. He's divorced, has an eight month old, and very very sweet. I accepted the date, I mean, it's just a date, no harm in that right? I don't know...maybe... The other guy I'm seeing brought up the whole "I don't want to see other people" speech a little while ago. I didn't know what to say when he brought it up. It kinda felt like an ultimatum. I left it alone b/c I thought we were on the same track, not being pushy, just having fun kinda thing. Well, I guess not giving a direct answer was answer enough for him b/c now he assumes that we are a couple, which I don't want or need at this point.

I really want to go out with this other guy but I don't want to add any drama to my already dramatic life, or hurt the guys feelings. So, what should I do? I thought we were just having fun, being friends, just going about our business....huh.

So? I know everyone thinks that I shouldn't be dating right now considering everything that has been and is going on with my exh. But, I like to go out every once and a while, and I don't see any harm in it...until now that is. So, what do I do? I like the other guy I'm seeing, but I just think it would be silly to pass up the opportunity to go out on a date with someone that I've wanted to go out with for so long. He's so nice, sweet, a good father, goes to church, doesn't drink...I could go on and on and on. Maybe I'm just wrapped up in the fact that he actually wants to go on a date with ME. ME of all people.

What would you all do?

Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 6:44pm

Jarod's behavior talking to your exh is totally inappropriate never mind for this stage of dating that you are at. If I was you I would cut teh cord very deep and very quick with him. I would tell him that you are just not ready for any dating and just want to be friends - nothing more. He sounds like he is cut from the same stone as your exh. And you don't want to go there again.

With regards to the doctor - YES - I like the sounds of him.

Take it slow. The thing is, yes, we all like to dive in whole hog at first - I have certainly been there more times than I can count. But I have learned that not everyone is an eligible person for me and to SEE that you have to step back to see it - not put on those crazy rose colored glasses - but really see things over time or you can't have an objective opinion and let things develop slowly. So do hold back your heart and the intimacy.

Keep us posted, too!!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 11:19pm

Kait,


I think that just for the fact that Jarod threatened your exh is enough to end things with him- and I would tell him that's why.


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