Okay...so now I am getting worried

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Okay...so now I am getting worried
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:03am

I am trying to have faith that he is just busy with school and lackluster in everything else but I am starting to doubt that (maybe my own insecurities?!?!)...

April

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 2:56pm

That sounds like a good dream for BE--lets him know that maybe he made the correct choice!


I do dream often--about once a week I actually remember them and the ones I remember are always very vivid and in color.

April

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 7:57pm

i know how you feel... ugh... this is when i say get out there and meet new guys... want some of my guy numbers who i call when i go crazy....lol.....


oh my... remember the night i drank vodka... (i don't drink that anymore btw)... i woke up with my address book open and the phone by my head... (i keep a backup of all the numbers i get.. ) i know it sounds crazy but it makes me laugh today... lol...


but seriously, go out with some girls, meet and talk to guys, maybe even get a new number... not saying that things won't work out with lawstudent.. perhaps it's just because of finals that you haven't heard from him... but i'm saying until

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Registered: 05-05-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:45pm

Hi,


If he is a law student, it is May right now.. and finals are upon students.


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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 9:21pm

I think your

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:33pm
I went to nursing school and went to classes almost all day and then tried time to fit in personal time and then to study every night.
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:50pm

HATE that feeling!

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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:10pm

I'm sorry to hear that, April...


If you can hang in there and wait for him to get through this period, then that's all good. But if you don't want to wait around, then it's just a matter of poor timing for you guys. He's not at fault for being busy, and you're not at fault either- if you want a relationship with someone who has more time to spend together. You both deserve that- and deserve to have/get what you want and need! But to stay together, it either has to negotiated and fits both... or the timing just isn't right and you can free each other up to do what you need/want to do.


I've been CRAZY busy lately and haven't had too much time for Hiker... but he seems okay with it. I've apologized for being busy and not giving him much attention- by saying that, I'm just letting him know that I am aware of not giving him what he deserves in a relationship; not really apologizing because I think I'm in any wrongdoing for being busy. And he tells me that it's okay, and that he understands. So it's all good... and we know that it's just one of those "humps" that we just have to get through, and hopefully later we will have more time together. And hopefully before too long, I will have more energy for him, too. But really... if I was super busy and didn't really have time to go out on dates... and he felt like he needed or wanted more from a relationship, then I would hope that he would at least let me know.


If you really would like to have more time with him, April... just bring it up. Ask for a coffee break if he wants a study break- and go do lunch or coffee (or whatever you both like) and give him a short break from "work"... and give you guys some time to reconnect again. Sometimes I'm surprised at how well just a little bit of focused attention goes a long way! Keeps both love tanks full, KWIM? I sense that yours is starting to run dry.


Keep us updated! But I hope things work out okay soon!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 8:52am

It is not finals week--he is in the second (well today, third) week of classes--he goes to a school that does classes year round.

April

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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 9:06am
- SORRY and Hugs April. I must admit this one is not looking good on paper. It doesn't really matter why - and yes I think that if you don't hear from him it is back to the drawing board. There are plenty of fishies out there and more than one would be attracted to you and want a relationship with you - you just have to find him. At the very least this one did inspire you to study law! And EH seems to have a good crop of them. It seems to me like you two got off to a very good start - so now you just need one like that who wants to go forward into a great relationship with you!! CHEERS and HUGS!
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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 11:08am

Good news!

April