Old high school crush

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Old high school crush
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Sat, 02-04-2012 - 9:45am
I was recently contacted out of the blue by a woman I was friends with in high school. We never dated because I was pretty nerdy but we were friends. So about twenty five years later and we are both single and she works with a friend of mine so she contacted me. She had to go through a bit of difficulty finding me email address at my office so I am thinking she has more than a passing interest. We emailed back and forth a few days and I looked up the website of her employer (she is a lawyer). Fortunately for me her photo was on the website and she is every bit as pretty as she I remembered. I called her and asked her out for a lunch date. I wanted to keep it casual in case she was just catching up with an old friend. We had a nice lunch and she laughed at all my jokes and we talked about everything under the sun. When we were walking out I suggested we meet again and she said yes. My question is do I treat the lunch as a date and call her right away. Do I just send her a text thanking her for meeting me? I am pretty bad at all the mysterious clue women send off. This is the first date I have been on on the past few years that I really think could end up in a meaningful relationship. Thanks for any advice. Ray
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Sat, 02-04-2012 - 6:46pm

Hi there Ray.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 8:28am

If she's the one who initially pursued contact, then yes, I would call her right away!

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 11:53pm
I agree. Don't seem too interested but call her and talk casually. Make her feel your interest without overwhelming her with your excitement. I'm excited for you. This should be great!

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 12:29am
Well I Took everyones advice and asked her out to dinner. She politely declined. Thank you for your advice. Its tougher than you think to be a guy and ask out a girl who seems interested and get rejected. It's amazing that the human race did not die out ages ago.
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 02-17-2012 - 8:18am

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that!

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Sat, 02-18-2012 - 2:29am
Sorry for my rant there at the end. I am just a little frustrated. For reasons beyond my comprehension women seem to be attracted to men who are almost certain to disappoint them. While good men like myself sleep alone. I was attracted to this website to gain an understanding into the female phyche, but so far I remain bewildered. I guess this is why I enjoy "big bang theory" so much. I really identify with those guys. End of rant. Ray
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 02-21-2012 - 10:46am

No worries on ranting -- that's what we're here for.

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Registered: 09-17-2013
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 4:44pm

Its tough but you have to take a hit every once in a while and keep at it. Alpha males get rejected, too. They just don't sulk about it. Just because you are nice doesn't mean you can't lift some weights and grow a pair and flirt with somebody else.