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| Sat, 02-03-2007 - 12:36pm |
I was surfing one of the dating sites last night and happened upon the most hilarious profile I have ever seen. I mean, who would write such a thing!! But it is the best lesson for any of us and written by a man. So I had to share:
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So I’m chatting with this person and I ask her what she wants and she tells me that she wants somebody who doesn’t classify as a “douche bag”. Let me tell you ladies something: THAT type of attitude will keep you single for a long time. I can’t imagine any person wants to be anybody’s next “douche bag”.
Oh, I know some of you are thinking that maybe she had a good reason for thinking this way. Let me first begin by saying that I believe malicious labels are petty, juvenile and the crutch of an ignorant mind. There’s simply no room in the world for a use of derogatory labels to characterize other people. I also believe that it’s a waste of one’s time to be thinking about someone for whom you do not agree with, like or otherwise care. Just move on. Life is too short.
My opinion aside, she definitely had her “reason”. Her explanation for calling him a “douche bag” was that the “boy” did not do something that she “expected”. Why do people “expect” things from other people? Maybe it’s the pragmatist in me that “expects” a lot from myself while at the same time “expecting” very little of others. Do we really have that much control over other people that we can “expect” them to act or not act a certain way? I think not.
I find that “expecting” very little from others makes me so appreciative of every little thing that’s actually done for me. With this attitude, I’m never heading in the direction of an inevitable letdown. I'm usually saying "thank you" all the time. Anyway, that’s just my opinion. So, you’re wondering, what’s my opinion on that matter have to do with my Match “portrait”? I suppose I’m looking for someone who isn’t going to “expect” me to do anything, but will be gracious enough to thank me every time I do everything. So ladies, here I am… a MAN among “boys”.

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I like him. Too bad he's so far away from me! I would definitely give his profile another look- it sure as heck beats the tar out of all the "I like long walks on the beach under a moonlit sky, good food and wine, and spending time making that special someone happy - in my free time I feed the homeless and knit sweaters for three legged dogs" I usually have to wade through.
At least this guy actually said something, and it wasn't the same thing everyone else is saying.
Moody, who is bored to tears by OLD profiles
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Moody, I don't know where you get YOUR online profiles, but where I live, the typical is more like:
"I want to be able to treat a woman like a queen. To show her a night out for a candlelight dinner, a moonlit walk, and maybe more. My hobbies and interests include hunting, fishing, camping and anything outdoors."
I always love the "maybe more" part- because I translate that into "sex"! lol
As for the original post by West... that man sure would come across as different from the rest of the sea of same-old, same-old wouldn't he?!?? I wonder how many responses he gets for writing something different?
~shrimpy, who agrees with his "policy" too- but still would be cautious until proven as not just another boy in a mansuit
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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He really is funny - but way too young for me - he is only 30.
He has more, too:
And a couple things to clarify...
1. I answered "Not sure" to wanting children. The answer is actually "Definitely", but in reality, it's more of a "Definitely not right now". The problem with answering it honestly is that Match wants me to give you a number of how many I want. Who knows how many? Let's just start with a first date, okay? Talking about children and how many seems premature at the moment. The fact is that I'd like anywhere between one (for my own selfish reasons) and a carload (if I find the most amazing woman out there to spend the rest of my days with). But like I said, let's take this one step at a time.
2. Some issues that are deal-breakers for me: drug-use, cigarette smoking on a regular basis, or excercising less than twice a week.
3. I've listed "Never Married" and "(No) children" for my date qualifications, but those answers are more a preference of mine than they are a deal-breaker. I'm sensible enough to realize that there are some great women out there that gave love a chance and it didn't work out for them. Some even went so far as to bring a child into the world. Thus, I won't hold either characteristic against you.
And here is what he put for one of his hotspots:
I realize this may seem pathetic, but the best place to run into me is at Publix (I really like to shop for food and cook).
There is so much more to his profile - he is just so funny. If he was my age I would wink!!
Because I don't want to pay for the email priveleges either! Otherwise I would definitely send him a message saying that I think his profile is one of the most creative I have ever read, I appreciate the laugh it gave me and that I wish him all the best in his search!! :-)
Every once in a while I get curious and have a peak at the online site. I must say, there are more people than ever on there. But then I can never bring myself to pay. I just got too burned out on online dating a while back.
And I am having fun challenging myself to get out of the house MORE! That is what I really need.
Judy, I admire you. You know what you want, and you know your weaknesses (getting out more).
All of us should strive to do whatever it is that's a challenge for us. Even if we don't find anyone to date, we become stronger people, and that's really more important, anyhow.
Moody, trying to be strong
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I think he sounds quite arrogant.
What he wrote would have been great as a piece of journalism, but I would run a mile from this one. Sounds waaaay too sure of himself.
Of course, I will take that back when Judy announces to us that she is about to marry this guy LOL! One time I really put my foot in it with a friend, who had just been dumped by her boyfriend. She was devastated, and I sent her a card to cheer her up, writing down all the reasons why she was waaay too good for that jerk who had dumped her. It was many years ago, but I do remember some of the choice vocabulary I used to describe him: spotty, geeky, dumb. They got back together quite soon afterwards, and I had nightmare visions of him spring cleaning and finding that note all about him!! I am still cringeing now! Needless to say, I was NOT invited to their wedding - EEK!!!
Clem xx
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