OLD lesson and profile case study.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
OLD lesson and profile case study.
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 12:36pm

I was surfing one of the dating sites last night and happened upon the most hilarious profile I have ever seen. I mean, who would write such a thing!! But it is the best lesson for any of us and written by a man. So I had to share:
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So I’m chatting with this person and I ask her what she wants and she tells me that she wants somebody who doesn’t classify as a “douche bag”. Let me tell you ladies something: THAT type of attitude will keep you single for a long time. I can’t imagine any person wants to be anybody’s next “douche bag”.

Oh, I know some of you are thinking that maybe she had a good reason for thinking this way. Let me first begin by saying that I believe malicious labels are petty, juvenile and the crutch of an ignorant mind. There’s simply no room in the world for a use of derogatory labels to characterize other people. I also believe that it’s a waste of one’s time to be thinking about someone for whom you do not agree with, like or otherwise care. Just move on. Life is too short.

My opinion aside, she definitely had her “reason”. Her explanation for calling him a “douche bag” was that the “boy” did not do something that she “expected”. Why do people “expect” things from other people? Maybe it’s the pragmatist in me that “expects” a lot from myself while at the same time “expecting” very little of others. Do we really have that much control over other people that we can “expect” them to act or not act a certain way? I think not.

I find that “expecting” very little from others makes me so appreciative of every little thing that’s actually done for me. With this attitude, I’m never heading in the direction of an inevitable letdown. I'm usually saying "thank you" all the time. Anyway, that’s just my opinion. So, you’re wondering, what’s my opinion on that matter have to do with my Match “portrait”? I suppose I’m looking for someone who isn’t going to “expect” me to do anything, but will be gracious enough to thank me every time I do everything. So ladies, here I am… a MAN among “boys”.

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 8:23pm
In a way, it's a lot like window shopping. I go to the mall just to see what's there. I have no intention of buying because I think, "I don't need this, I'm just curious".
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 5:50pm
When I first did OLD a few years ago I e-mailed a guy I had no interest in dating, but his profile was so different, sarcastic and funny that I just had to e-mail him.

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