OLD - oh my gosh! RANT for the day

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Registered: 05-13-2005
OLD - oh my gosh! RANT for the day
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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 8:46am

Okay, girls, I know I have only been at this one day but I am HORRIFIED!

The men in my area in my age group (35-53) are just so far off from what I would want. So overweight, smokes, atheist, separated, travel all the time, ride motorcycles (sorry this is NOT for me!), yellow teeth, so ugly, 48 and never been married (and thinks he is going to have kids SOMEDAY??), and a guy who is a pest control person in a queer yellow suit called spyderkiller There is also a psychotherapist who calls himself drcalm.

I have had quite a few emails the first day but all have a major NO reaction when I see them or read their profile!

HELP! Is it just this way for everyone and you have to be patient and pick through hundreds? Or maybe I am just too young for my age?

I just want someone stable and in shape and fun who is into me!! I am not asking for John D. Rockefeller or Tom Cruise!!

Okay - that is my rant for the morning - will keep you all posted.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:50am

You just have to be patient. I find OLD to be very depressing if I'm not in the right mindset. You have to just put your profile up there and realize that 99.999999% of the guys who contact you will not be your type at all. Don't get discouraged. If you are feeling discouraged, don't go looking at the male profiles either. Sometimes reading through those can be depressing because you'll see so many toads and spot so many red flags.

Sit back. Relax and read the incoming emails. Have a good laugh when you feel like it. Someone will spark your interest eventually.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 10:22am
posting is exactly like walking into a bar. I 'met' 60-80 men when I posted (I live in a cosmopolitan city) and out of that mass mailing, I would perhaps get to ONE date that may probably didn't lead to a second date. You're going through exactly what I went through...tons of inappropriate men (has anyone sent you pictures?!) Hang in there, I stuck to it and met my DH that way. The strategy is to keep your sense of humor and relax.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 12:38pm
Thanks you guys!! I appreciate the support and advice!!
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 4:13pm

lol Judy! maybe you need to relocate? You've got to laugh about some of these...and be glad that you don't have to respond to them.

When I was OLDing, I used to keep my profile hidden and I would initiate the email with the guys that I thought looked interesting w/a link to my profile. I'd leave it up to them to respond and do the rest of the pursuing if they were interested. I weeded out ALOT of undesireables that way...but some still got through!

Try to have fun with it. Consider it like a research assignment. Don't think of it as the answer to your dating dilemma of finding the right guy, but just a tool to expose yourself to more of the haystack so you can find the needle.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 8:12pm

I tend to think the new fish gets an email from EVERY desperate creepy guy on the site. That is what they do, they just see who's new that day and email them. It really is gross sometimes, but it can also be entertaining. I once had a guy email me his whole life story in the first email, and oh my goodness what an incredibly dysfunctional story it was (including details about his ex and children). If that was his standard method of introducing himself, I can't imagine the kind of woman that would respond! I called my friend and said you aren't going believe this and read the whole thing, and then we had a good laugh.

Hang in there, if you find the right kind of guy it will be worth it, and if you don't you really aren't risking too much as long as you have the ability to sift through the bad apples.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:09pm
Okay - thanks!!
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 9:09pm
Wow - that is too crazy that he put his whole life story in there!! OLD is a crazy thing.
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