OLD Questions

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2005
OLD Questions
2
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 7:43pm

Tell me what you think of these. I am trying to learn where the fine line is. At first I dated too many people I shouldnt, and lately a couple of my friends have told me that I'm too uptight about guys I meet online.

1) Guy sent me a flirt message about 10 days ago. I emailed and asked him to tell me more about himself because his profile didn't give much info. He emailed to say that my email came across blank. (I sent it through the site, not quite sure how that works) He emailed me again a few hours later (before I got his message) and told me a little about himself. I was busy that evening and didn't check my email. He emailed again first thing the next morning that he would have liked to talk to me, and didn't know why I didn't respond. I emailed that I hadn't gotten his messages until then, and answered a few of the things he mentioned in his second email. He replied again, answered a few things I asked him. I replied with more general chitchat, similar to previous emails we had exchanged. Didn't hear from him for a week, and then he emailed today, giving me his phone number and asked me to call him.

2) I sent another guy a flirt message about the same time. He emailed and said he would like to get to know me, would rather talk in person or on the phone. I said that I had had a bad experience with someone I had met online, and that I would be more confortable talking by email a little before we met in person. He was understanding. We emailed back and forth daily for 5 days, and we had so much in common it was freaky. I gave him my number Tuesday night (last week) and said if he would like to call me, we should make arrangements about going out. He replied that he would love to, he had to work late Wednesday and probably wouldn't get to call me until Thursday. Never heard from him, no call, no email. Should I email again?

Thanks gang, y'all always help me so much.

Kelly

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:05pm

Hi Kelly,

I know exactly what you mean. I took OLD by storm and dated a lot of people in the beginning and now am very picky.

To answer your questions, here is my opinion - I am sure you will get a lot more good opinions from the others.

1) I would call him. I would not worry about the time passing by. You don't really mention anything that you like, but you never know you can hit it off on the phone. It is always worth a try.

2) I would NOT email him anymore. The ball is in his court. If he wants to call, he will call. His reply to you sending the phone number confirms that he got it. And he might surprise you with a call real soon.

Hope this helps. Keep us posted!! It is always fun to hear OLD stories.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 12:23pm

Both of those guys sound like duds. Do not call the first guy. He sends "flirts", but has very little info in his profile. He was too slow in responding and he responds by telling you, "call me". He's not making an effort.

Second guy, he said he would call you. He hasn't it. I bet he had a date on Weds. night. Don't email him. He's not making an effort either.

Just wait. Someone better will come along.

The site that you are using sounds like it has a lot of bugs. Match is good.