Older guy younger woman?

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Older guy younger woman?
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 8:35am

My question is why? What do older guys see in younger women, beside the obvious (arm candy). It seems I attract older guys. I dont know why.


Why would one want to have a relationship with a person 10 or 20 years younger? Dont they worry that they are in a different phase of life and that could cause issues later? I dont get it.


Guys if youre here this would be a good one to answer.


Thanks


Laurie (the newbie)

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 9:21am

I'm with someone 10 years older and we are both actually in the same phase of life.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 10:11am

Hi Laurie-


I'ts probably different for everone. I can only say why I'm attracted to someone older than me at this time.

~Pacific~
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 10:45am

I'm about 9-10 yrs younger than my Hiker... but we fit. Very well, in fact!


I don't think I could date someone 20 yrs older though (that would mean in his 60's!! Yikes), and to be hit on by someone that much older as well... would creep me out.


I've dated men 9 yrs younger than I am- but they were only FUN and not anything serious. They are just too immature for anything long lasting- but they do have fun bodies. LOL But I'm not sure if that's the same concept that the men go for when the seek younger women. Maybe. But I do think that whole "trophy girlfriend" aspect is part of it for the men. IMO- I think for the women to chase rich men... that is also the "trophy" aspect for the opposite sex. Sucks that it happens... but it does exist.


Hiker and I were watching a show on tv yesterday evening about a family who won a huge lottery and how it changed them. Namely, the man. Apparently they got yearly installments of over a million and he bought about 20 fancy cars. And several big houses (who would need so many homes!??) And started chasing young women... and it ruined the marriage. And in the end, he committed suicide because all he wanted was his wife back. He was so clueless about what really mattered in life!


Anyway, I asked Hiker what he would do if he won a huge chunk of lottery money. If he would start chasing younger women. He said he wouldn't. He said that he couldn't see buying all those big houses, either- and that it was such a waste. And then he said that he would definitely go buy a cool sports car, but not 20 of them! lol (Still a MAN underneath the brains afterall- lol) He doesn't see the attraction with chasing some young thing... so I'm glad. But then I reminded him that *I* am some young thing compared to him. LOL ;-) hehee He knows it's a joke.. because we fit and the age difference doesn't even seem to be right. We seem to be closer in age than what we are on paper.


I do like older men though... but it's not the AGE so much as the man's maturity level. I want a man who is responsible and stable- no matter what his age is.


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 10:49am

Thanks Pacific. Sounds like you are really happy with your guy. I understand why you are into older guys. I appreciate those qualities in them too.


The acronyms on this board confuse me. BDTD? OLD? There were a few others too that I didnt get but I cant remember then either...hahaha.


Laurie

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 10:51am

OLD= online dating


BTDT= been there done that

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 12:13pm

Welcome Laurie,


As the elder statesman of this board ;-), I can speak with absolute authority on this topic (like any other topic LOL).


I'm turning 55 this year.

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 12:52pm

Oh so nice to get a guys opinion on this. I actually asked my old BF, not the abusive one.A different one. He is 10 years older than me so I figured he was the perfect person to ask. He had quite frank answers too.

Thanks. It is nice to know there are guys out there that are not into arm candy. Your reasons were very similar to my ex BF's.

I am 45 and I like 55 year old Asian guys. Sorry. I couldn't resist that one. Hahaha. Sorry. I will behave now. I like around 40 to 50ish. Met a few online and from my job. Not a man I work with but one who works for the same company just a different location. The online dating kind of scares me. I was honest about Asian though. I am from Hawaii and feel at home with them. Tsunami comes from the Disney kids movie Johnny Tsunami. I identify with him. I was moved from Hawaii to New England and it wasn't my choice.

I don't know all the acronyms yet. CNDG?

Laurie

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 12:59pm
but it's not the AGE so much as the man's maturity level. I want a man who is responsible and stable- no matter what his age is.

I agree! I guess that's what I was trying to say but didn't. Heck I'd be just as attracted to a younger guy IF he was stable and responsible. And not all older guys re stable or responsible so you're right- it's the guy not the age so much. Its just been my jaded experience about guys my age, having not ment many who act "grown".


~Pacific~
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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 2:17pm

w00t a date?!

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Fri, 04-04-2008 - 2:20pm

Hi Mark. Wheres the post of your story with her? Would like to read it.

Laurie

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