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Older guy younger woman?
| Fri, 04-04-2008 - 8:35am |
My question is why? What do older guys see in younger women, beside the obvious (arm candy). It seems I attract older guys. I dont know why.
Why would one want to have a relationship with a person 10 or 20 years younger? Dont they worry that they are in a different phase of life and that could cause issues later? I dont get it.
Guys if youre here this would be a good one to answer.
Thanks
Laurie (the newbie)

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Here is the whole history to date with the Cute Newly Divorced Gal (cute gal) akak CNDG ...
Dec 10 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=10976.6&ctx=128
Feb 14 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=11328.1&ctx=128
Feb 15 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=11368.1&ctx=128
Mar 03 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=11471.1&ctx=128
Mar 16 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=11568.1&ctx=128
Mar 17 http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=11614.1&ctx=128
Mark, wow its a lot of reading. But I will read it. I have to head out now because I actually have a date. That is if you can call it a date if you are out with your best friend who is a single guy. Sort of a date. Will read up on your story tonight.
Laurie
I agree, too. And this is a challenge for all of us - the younger woman I know have a lot of single guys in their pond but the stable and mature and monogamous part is what eliminates most - while the older women have much fewer choices.
I don't think age difference matters much as long as both people are okay with it - life stages are important to consider.
I do know guys who are older and in better shape than most younger guys. But I also know younger guys who are fun and very mature. So I think it is the person that matters. I think most people have more of an open mind about age nowadays.
There is an interesting board here called May to December - and it is about age gap relationships and has interesting threads on occasion.
Hi Mark,
I just got home from my pseudo date with my friend and read your stories. I feel for you dude.
Ironically the same thing happened with me and my friend B. I met him last Feb online on Fitnesssingles.com. We are both runners. I more than him. Anyhow we hit it off great in March. He is a very slow mover and we didnt get close physically until Jun. But that lasted only a while. I think it scared him. He is very religious. So we backed off since Jun and have been dating as friends since then. He stayed my friend the whole time.
I know how you feel. Its so hard to back off from what you want and view it from a different angle. But I stay friends with B and admire and love him from a far. I never had the nerve to tell him how I really feel. That might have something to do with his detachment but I don't want to scare him away. We are good friends and I enjoy his company.
I tried the match.com thing and only met head game players. A game I was never very good at. So I got off of there in a hurry. Actually fitnesssingles worked well for me. Met lots of good people on it. But there are very few men on it and hardly any new ones joining. But so far I am happy with the ones I met.
I wish you luck in your search for that special woman. I am certain you will find a wonderful one. You seem like a unique person. Its nice to have a guys input on these boards.
Laurie
I'm in a now 2+ yr relationship with a man 17 yrs older than I am. Basically, what makes it work for us is the mental similarites. We work in the same field, have kids the same age, and have great discussions (sometimes
Thats means there is something there more than physical attraction. Maybe someday she will be ready for more. Do you think?
My attraction for B was a surprise too but for a different reason. We chatted online and I was not attracted to his picture. I thought he was a nice guy but and that was about it. So I agreed to meet for a run thinking that would be it...one meeting. Once I saw him in person I was immediately attracted to him. Much better looking in person. And his personality was just like he was online, polite and nice. Thats the problem with online dating. Pictures can be so deceiving and personalities can hide behind polite chat. You never really know what youre going to get until you meet in person.
Laurie
Nasty stares? Really? Thats awful. Any rude comments?
Dont get me wrong. I am NOT being judgmental about others. I could not really care less. I was just wondering what older guys see in younger women and what they see in me.
Laurie
Check out the iVillage response HERE.
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