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older woman, younger man
| Thu, 06-17-2004 - 6:18pm |
HI to all:
I am wondering if any of you here have had the experience of dating younger men? I would love stories if you have them.

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I've dated a few younger guys,but usually within a year or so...no huge age gaps.
Sherry<with 3 kids, 2 beautiful granddaughters
I have. He was 20 and I was 27. Seven years between a guy and a woman when the guy still isn't of legal drinking age is a kind of a big gap.
I was NOT ever serious about him. He was a "fun time friend" and there was always a lot of flirtation. And then one night I allowed it to turn into more. That went on (and we told NO ONE by the way. None of our mutual friends knew) for about 2 months. It was very fun. Then one day he tweaked out on me and said he wasn't ready to be in a relationship with a child involved and he couldn't imagine being a step dad. I laughed and said "RElationship? Step Dad? What are you TALKING about??? If this is too much for you, fine. But I think you're making way more of "us" than what is there" So, we backed off and went back to friends.
We are no longer friends.
About 7 or 8 months later, he was at the end of another relationship and came to see me. We had a few drinks together, and he ended up forcing himself on me. I was going to just brush it off as being partially my fault for having been drinking with him, except that a few days later I heard from my little sister that he'd bragged about his "conquest" of me. How drunk he'd gotten me and he alluded to the rest, w/out coming right out and saying that he'd taken advantage of me.
I called him immediately. Told him that he was never again to call me or any member of my family. That we were finished with all association. He sounded sad and contrite. He apologized, and I said that while I accepted his apology, we were still finished. Haven't talked to him since. Don't care to.
I find that if you have similar interest and the same overall goals in terms of a relationship, age doesn't have to get in the way.
When I was dating the 26 year old, I was 31 and we were at different points in our lives. I did feel that I was ahead of the game in some areas than he was in terms of career/education, etc. But he was intellectually and emotionally mature and we got along great. I never felt "older" than him, and quite frankly I never thought of him as younger than me. Most people would have never guessed the age difference. Ultimately, our relationship ended because we were headed in different directions in life.
I believe age does not define the man (unless he's a minor) lol. It's just part of the equation. I wouldn't necessary rule a guy out for being younger, but I would make sure we we had things in common in terms of what we wanted in the relationship and what future goals we were working towards.
Are you or have you dated someone younger?
Would you consider one year younger to be
Can't say I didn't like the attention, it was nice. But as youngers guys do, he found someone else and told me he wanted to date her- she was more the *girlfriend* type. LOL
I'm 27 now, and as my mom loves to point out, I need to find a commitment, not a fling. LOL
Interesting topic.
Alison
The reason I am asking is because I have become smitten with someone who is younger than me by 12 years. I am 42 and he is soon to turn 31. We never planned it - it just happened. We have been working together (he is my coach) for almost 2 years and so much chemistry and such a friendship has developed. He is very mature for his age - most of his friends and clients are married men in their 40s and 50s. PLUS I am in great shape, a size 4, and can outrun most men his age (I do so in his classes) - I certainly don't look my age and he looks a little older so I feel we are the same age inside.
He is very very shy and not a player - works hard, goes to bed early, comes from a small town. He lives with his brother who is going to school and he just bought his own house.
He really likes my son and my son adores him.
As with everything, time will tell. I guess it depends on the guy and you have to watch the "player" thing when they are that age - but then again, I have seen men in their 40s who are players, too.
I do have a few friends who have married men 10-12 years younger and they are very happy. I was reading an article in USA Today that says this is quite the trend these days.
My aunt is 10 years older than my uncle. When she met him, she was a size 6 and could run circles around him too ;), she still is and looks much younger than her age. (It runs in the family as I am always told I look about 25 and I am 33!) For them it was ALL about chemistry...ooph! The stories she used to tell me, and I was only 13 at the time! LOL But they were at the same place in life, both had good jobs, college educations, same goals for relationship and children. They have been happily married for 19 years!
Good luck!
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