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Older Woman, Younger Men
| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 7:24am |
About 2-1/2 months ago met a great man at the airport while taking my daughter to Vegas for her 21st birthday - turned out he lived in my town. Anyway, long story short, we started dating about a week after trip to Vegas and all seems to be going well. He's 9-1/2 years younger than me, has no kids and has never been married. He and I get along great and relationship is a good one. Sex is okay... not great but I'm okay with that. The personality differences are there but definitely not a big deal at all. My biggest problem with the relationship is getting used to the age difference on my end. He has absolutely no problem with it. Has anyone on the boards here experienced this?? This is my first relationship with a younger man and I am crazy about him. Any suggestions appreciated.

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Oh dear - that is a bummer and hard to go through - but I guess better that you figured out now you both don't want the same things.
It is great that you have a date already for this weekend, though! Tell us more!!
Thanks to all of you!!!
Meesh
Meesh:
Sorry to hear about the younger man. It is hard to find nice men, but you will again. For what it's worth, I sometimes think it's easier to stop thinking about an ex-boyfriend if you meet another man -- then you focus on the new man and forget about the old. That's what I'm trying to do, but no luck so far. However, going out and having fun, even if it is with friends, does help take your mind off of things (which I have been doing). Good luck to you with this new guy, and let us know how it goes. Sorry to be stupid, but what's a "mensch"?
Donna
Yes, it is hard to find nice men these days. This new guy calls and text messages me. He sent me a message that he's crazy about me. It is flattering but I am moving slowly and with the help of my therapist who I saw last night (and who's so proud of me for going on a date) I am healing faster than I thought. Time has a way of lessening pain as well as joy she says. As I said earlier I am going to move slowly on this new guy just for the simple reason of protecting my emotions. I still see him online at jdate.com so I am being cautious. It is just a fluke that I got lucky and went out with someone. I usually have rotten luck!!! We will see how is all progresses of time which tells all. And an FYI for you... a mensch is a jewish word for a good classy guy. You're not stupid, many people wouldn't know what the word means.
Meesh
The younger guy you dated doesn't really want the "white picket fence" scenario. He said that to get out of the relationship. If you wanted to get married and have babies, he would have told you that's not what he wants in life right now and he couldn't give you that.
Guys have a knack for saying whatever sounds plausible to get out of a relationship.
Best wishes.
Hi Meesh,
Well, you can't argue about having a "mensch" - I like that term and the idea of finding one. It sounds like you are on the right track - keep us posted.
Nah... he really does want the white picket fence and he told me from day one as well. I also told him from day one that I didn't want to have more children being that I have a 21 year old. I just wanted to be clear on that. We really did part on good terms and I wish him well. Had I been 10 years younger and wanting to have children we'd still be together and we both knew it. What I've learned through this is that there are really nice honorable men out there - you just have to look hard!!! Meantime, the new guy I met on jdate keeps text messaging me.... taking that slow because I don't believe in going from "the frying pan to the fire"!
Meesh
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