OMG is he hinting?
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OMG is he hinting?
| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 1:25pm |
I dont think he is hinting at something that could happen this week or even next month but my God, my guy is throwing things out about marriage out a lot. He had this whole speech last week that came out of nowhere on our way to the grocery store about how his feelings about marriage have changed a bit and how he knows we already have everything but of course he still wants to but he doesnt have religion in his life and wouldnt feel a church would be right and he isnt in any rush and and and and I just sat there dumbfounded. I asked him if he was trying to tell me something or whether he had just decided that eventually marrying wasnt necessary. He said that wasnt the case -he was just thinking out loud...OOOOKAY. So I told him it was true I did have fear about marriage but I did see us getting married eventually and that we already had more of a marriage than I EVER had with my ex. He smiled at that. I wondered about stuff after we talked but kept quiet about it - felt it was best to just let it drop. I want him to feel comfortable just thinking out loud about it and like that he feels this way.
So today we are coming home from the gym and we stop to get food for dinner at the market and he starts calling me Mrs. P. I didnt even understand him at first. It actually took me a second or two to put two and two together and know that his last name started with P. Yeah I know - pretty lame - maybe I got my heart rate up too high at the gym today! He was being very affectionate when he said it and then it clicked and so I just smiled at him and I said "awwww now why are you going to go and call me that? " and he said he was just trying it out and I'll have to get used to it one day.
I am tempted to bring it up with him again today to see what the f his timeline is in his head. Can you tell I am freaking out a bit? I just didnt see that coming. He has had such a rough year and I DO want to get engaged but I am not ready to walk down the aisle. Does that sound weird? I know it would be a good example to set for my son too to show him we are making a public commitment that everyone can see and understand but I dont want to do it for those reasons alone.
Ugh. I am excited and scared all at the same time...oh and sore from the gym. And I start weight training tomorrow.
My mind is just racing over here. He just made me a smoothie in a crystal pitcher btw - wth? That just scares me more. Good thing he cant read what I am writing over here! He would probably just laugh though...
So today we are coming home from the gym and we stop to get food for dinner at the market and he starts calling me Mrs. P. I didnt even understand him at first. It actually took me a second or two to put two and two together and know that his last name started with P. Yeah I know - pretty lame - maybe I got my heart rate up too high at the gym today! He was being very affectionate when he said it and then it clicked and so I just smiled at him and I said "awwww now why are you going to go and call me that? " and he said he was just trying it out and I'll have to get used to it one day.
I am tempted to bring it up with him again today to see what the f his timeline is in his head. Can you tell I am freaking out a bit? I just didnt see that coming. He has had such a rough year and I DO want to get engaged but I am not ready to walk down the aisle. Does that sound weird? I know it would be a good example to set for my son too to show him we are making a public commitment that everyone can see and understand but I dont want to do it for those reasons alone.
Ugh. I am excited and scared all at the same time...oh and sore from the gym. And I start weight training tomorrow.
My mind is just racing over here. He just made me a smoothie in a crystal pitcher btw - wth? That just scares me more. Good thing he cant read what I am writing over here! He would probably just laugh though...



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Your post just radiates excitement!
WOW--I know that the discussion is pretty nerve raking for you but it has to be exciting all the same!!
April
I think it's great - he's totally keeping you on your toes! LOL!!!
Just keep in mind how you would like things to move forward.
I have a feeling that that nervous feeling you are experiencing is perfectly normal especially after having gone through a marriage that didn't work out.
I do think it is great also. I have no idea what this means in terms of where is head is on the timing of it all but it looks like the subject is open and a bit up for grabs. I have had to fight off the urge to tie him to the chair and ask what in the world he is thinking about EXACTLY. I am a bit of a control freak maybe? not normally but in this case I would rather be in on what his head and heart are asking him to do. I thought I had an idea but obviously that pretty head of his has been ticking away while I wasnt looking.
I guess I figured we were a year or so away from this moment. HA! I am very smiley about it - just have some twitters to work out
Thanks for your positive wishes - I'll take every last one!!
I think you put it exactly right. In some ways, I have my life very set up right now. He on the other hand is still ironing some stuff out because of our age difference. But he is great, productive, loving and just all around wonderful. I should have learned by now that I just never quite know what is going on inside his mind!! I love that about him though...truly....
Oh wow. Well, from what you have written about him - he sounds wonderful - and he must be into you if he is saying all that. Maybe the answer is a long engagement and discussion over your fears and both of your expectations. Knowledge and communication are power of course.
Keep us posted!
Oh that is exciting!
He sounds so great- and yes it sounds like a hint- or a tthe very least he's testing the waters, gauging how you feel and how ready you are or are not. I take that as a great sign that he thinks of you as The One and he is conscious of how and when things will progress.
I am happy that you have this great guy who is obviously thinking very highly of you and your realtionship!
Its been a wacky and wonderful day over here....
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