OMG is he hinting?
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OMG is he hinting?
| Mon, 03-17-2008 - 1:25pm |
I dont think he is hinting at something that could happen this week or even next month but my God, my guy is throwing things out about marriage out a lot. He had this whole speech last week that came out of nowhere on our way to the grocery store about how his feelings about marriage have changed a bit and how he knows we already have everything but of course he still wants to but he doesnt have religion in his life and wouldnt feel a church would be right and he isnt in any rush and and and and I just sat there dumbfounded. I asked him if he was trying to tell me something or whether he had just decided that eventually marrying wasnt necessary. He said that wasnt the case -he was just thinking out loud...OOOOKAY. So I told him it was true I did have fear about marriage but I did see us getting married eventually and that we already had more of a marriage than I EVER had with my ex. He smiled at that. I wondered about stuff after we talked but kept quiet about it - felt it was best to just let it drop. I want him to feel comfortable just thinking out loud about it and like that he feels this way.
So today we are coming home from the gym and we stop to get food for dinner at the market and he starts calling me Mrs. P. I didnt even understand him at first. It actually took me a second or two to put two and two together and know that his last name started with P. Yeah I know - pretty lame - maybe I got my heart rate up too high at the gym today! He was being very affectionate when he said it and then it clicked and so I just smiled at him and I said "awwww now why are you going to go and call me that? " and he said he was just trying it out and I'll have to get used to it one day.
I am tempted to bring it up with him again today to see what the f his timeline is in his head. Can you tell I am freaking out a bit? I just didnt see that coming. He has had such a rough year and I DO want to get engaged but I am not ready to walk down the aisle. Does that sound weird? I know it would be a good example to set for my son too to show him we are making a public commitment that everyone can see and understand but I dont want to do it for those reasons alone.
Ugh. I am excited and scared all at the same time...oh and sore from the gym. And I start weight training tomorrow.
My mind is just racing over here. He just made me a smoothie in a crystal pitcher btw - wth? That just scares me more. Good thing he cant read what I am writing over here! He would probably just laugh though...
So today we are coming home from the gym and we stop to get food for dinner at the market and he starts calling me Mrs. P. I didnt even understand him at first. It actually took me a second or two to put two and two together and know that his last name started with P. Yeah I know - pretty lame - maybe I got my heart rate up too high at the gym today! He was being very affectionate when he said it and then it clicked and so I just smiled at him and I said "awwww now why are you going to go and call me that? " and he said he was just trying it out and I'll have to get used to it one day.
I am tempted to bring it up with him again today to see what the f his timeline is in his head. Can you tell I am freaking out a bit? I just didnt see that coming. He has had such a rough year and I DO want to get engaged but I am not ready to walk down the aisle. Does that sound weird? I know it would be a good example to set for my son too to show him we are making a public commitment that everyone can see and understand but I dont want to do it for those reasons alone.
Ugh. I am excited and scared all at the same time...oh and sore from the gym. And I start weight training tomorrow.
My mind is just racing over here. He just made me a smoothie in a crystal pitcher btw - wth? That just scares me more. Good thing he cant read what I am writing over here! He would probably just laugh though...



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City - In this post you sound like you took a moment to breath it all in and realize just how wonderful this could be.
Wow - you did everything right. To want a good relationship and not just want to be married. To wait and not introduce anyone to your son. And to be your own eccentric self. I love your story. And I hope this means that there is someone out there for my eccentric self! LOL!!
Keep us posted - it especially melts my heart that he gets you - and that he is with your son and you are so pleased with what you see.
I am so touched by your posts. You waited long enough and SYB sounds perfect for you and your son. I can totally see what you say about feeling like a failure. I used to feel that way.
I am staying with Biker these days (I havent vaccated my apartment). I have my lease for 2 more months. Things are great. We get so much time together. Cooking,talking, cuddling.. We drive to work in our own cars and he leaves bit early and is back home a bit earlier than I do. He would start on cooking and I finish it off. Suddenly life is so peaceful. I realised that I have stressing on expectations more than acceptance. Once I learnt to accept and appreciate whathe is..I realise how great life is. I have started going to this health club and I really can see how working out makes a difference in life. I am enjoying the various group exercises there and some yoga.
We are definitely moving towards something. We talked a bit about rings and since we work together we
decided that we will announce our relationship after we are engaged. This is kind of tricky since we work together. Although my Boss has some idea.
I am sure SYB is thinking very seriously of taking a next step. Can wait to hear the update.
" Kind of like wondering whether you really could take another try at having it all? "
YES! You can win, if you dont play ... right?
I will post it now....hysterical and I think others on here will enjoy doing it too!!
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
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