OMG - I am SO upset
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OMG - I am SO upset
| Fri, 02-08-2008 - 7:12pm |
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| Fri, 02-08-2008 - 7:12pm |
*** I updated at the end of this thread - please read ***
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well unfortunately he called last night and I'd had a few glasses of wine and well you can imagine where this went - no where good to say the least.
Actually - I let my Match acct expire like TWO months ago. Apparently my profile stays up ... weird. AND yes! People do email me AND wink at me ... & if i try to look, it tells me to pay & i can see/read them. So really, its very odd. But he coudl totally have been telling the truth.
If you think the relationship is worth it, I would come clean (VERY hard, i know!)
I agree that Match can "forget" to remove your profile.
Honest, authentic relationships where we are vulnerable with each other is so very hard. I believe in being compassionately honest and truthful with all our relationships.
What I see is that if you want to be totally honest with him then you could have told him that you were insecure about your relationship with him and even though you don't like to admit it, that you were checking up on him.
I believe in order to get what we want (e.g. honesty, love, vulnerability, etc.) we need to be that ourselves.
The baggage we all have is something we can either own it, deal with it, and heal it or put it on the other people in our lives.
I believe all relationships we have in our lives are our Practice. I believe I cannot learn to be intimate in a vacuum. I believe I cannot learn to trust if I was by myself. I need to do that with other people.
Mark
May your soul be at rest.
May your heart remain open.
May you realize your own true nature.
May you be healed.
May you be a source of healing for the world. - a zen prayer
Mark,
I just want to thank you for your advice.
Here is the deal on match.com regarding what Rebecca wrote and what I know:
Wouldn't he have had to log in to show as "active"?
I think you could make up a free fake ID, and test all the procedural questions here.
It sounds like you had other issues with him besides the online thing.
There are plenty of fish in the sea so when things calm down after this you can always go back to sea.....
Sorry you had to go through this - but it sounds like it could be good you got this off your chest and got an answer from him.
He would NOT have gotten a wink if he did not have his profile still up. What service was this on? I know on some sites you can hide your profile from everyone but on others if it is hidden and you wink at them or send a message to them they can still see you.
I haven't been on match in about 3 yrs, so things might've changed... but when I was there before- you had to create a profile (and log-in)
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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