OMG! I HATE THE COURT SYSTEM!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
OMG! I HATE THE COURT SYSTEM!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu, 02-01-2007 - 10:58am

So, I get there & wait & wait & wait ... at 9:45 am, I call my atty office & say to the secretary "This is a stupid question, but we DO have court today, right?" she says "No, it was cancelled, Didnt you get the message?" - i swore. She said "Hold on". Then she tells me the paralegal EMAILED me "yesterday afternoon" ... Uh, i NEVER got an email, & either way, if they didnt hear back from me, dont they think it would have been a good idea to CALL ME? & make SURE I got the message????? (i checked my email just now again, there IS no email from her!)

So, apparently X's atty "cancelled yesterday b/c he has another court case he coudlnt get out of" .... BULL. I am SURE he cancelled b/c X wasnt compliant & now this buys him MORE time. I am SO infuriated I had all I could do not to cry.

She said it will "be re-scheduled for sometime at the end of Feburary". I told her to have my atty call me ASAP b/c I am NOT waiting a month. My child CANT wait a month. She is being emotionally ABUSED, called names, frightened ... its BULL*@$#$*.

So, thats all I know for now. AAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!


ps- CL-west .. no! I dont feel better! the freaking pills give me diarrhea ... & i didnt take one this AM b/c i didnt want to be sick in court. Gee ... I WONDER what my BP is right now! Better go take one! Thanks for thinking of me

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 11:58am

I am so sorry Rebecca - what a horrible inconvenience for you - never to mention the whole reason why you are going through this in the first place.

I am glad that you will try to talk to your attorney - there must be something else you can do?

Your poor nerves must feel like a pressure cooker. I am glad you decided not to take that medication - you surely didn't want the runs on top of all that. Hopefully you get that straightened out. Good thing you are a nurse!!

HUGS - I would make you a cup of tea if you lived closer. YOu are such a good mom and person.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 12:41pm

That is infuriating.

Your ex sounds awful. Mine is too, but he stays clear. Haven't heard from him since May 8. The absence is hard on my son, but it is preferable to the in your daighter's face abuse.

The courts are terribly frustrating. I went through the MI system, which was actually okay. Here in PA the single moms that I know are really struggling.

All the best. Hang in there.

BTW, My ex had supervised visitation. Sounds liek you have tried that with yours.

Does he want a relationship with your kid? I can't believe he speaks to her that way. What does he serve to gain from it ( I am assuming that that is how how he thinks.
I believe you wrote that he's a good dad 30% of the time. Well the inconsistency he is showing more than compensates for the 30%. I hope all goes well. Take care of yourself, too. Sounds as if life is pretty rough on you right now.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 1:26pm
I'm sorry the date got moved on you. That sucks.
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 3:03pm

R- hugs to you!

Feel better, take your medicine!

I'm so sorry about all of this.

Hugs again!

Moody, sending warmth and hugs


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 3:26pm

Thanks everyone - I sent this to my atty:


2/1/2007

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 3:57pm

Oh, how maddening!!! It seems like this is just being dragged on forever... and in the meantime, A is having to deal with all of it, YOU have to deal with all of it, and M isn't getting any of the help he NEEDS to get! (Not that anyone can make him get help or gain from any help unless HE wants it)

And it's insane that NO ONE bothered to call you to tell you it was cancelled. I agree with you. I think his attorney cancelled it, hoping it will give them more time for M to "be on his best behavior" and try to eliminate all the bad he's been doing recently and show the judge next time some sort of "clean record". Sheesh.

Hugs to you, and PLEASE take care of your health. Take the BP med... and an antidiarrheal, too. I just worry about you if you DON'T take the BP med if your pressure has been as high as you said. You have ALOT on your plate, and I hope the meds are only temporary... but make sure you take care of yourself as long as the pressure IS still high and there.

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 5:56pm
Thanks Honey. I did take the meds & guess what? My BP when my doc checked it today was 138/76!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 7:39pm
That says it all. Tell us what he says. Unless he is in court he has to call you back soon!!
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Registered: 10-09-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 9:03pm

I feel such sympathy for you. There is NOTHING worse than feeling like your child is being treated poorly and you have no real recourse. It's infuriating and I can only imagine what a basket case I would be in your position. It breaks your heart when your child suffers the smallest injustice and to know that her own father is being so cruel is unbearable.

Stay strong and take care of yourself. You're doing an amazing job and you're doing what you have to do to take of your little girl. She will always know that you fought for her and that you didn't let someone abuse her. You are teaching her not to be powerless or passive. You're raising her to be strong and fight back. I wish you the very best and I hope that you find some peace soon.

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Registered: 09-16-2006
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 11:26pm
I am so sorry this is being dragged out for you.......It seems like the court system intentionally makes everything more miserable (and expensive) than it has to be. Hang in there. Your daughter is lucky to have such a good, strong, loving mom - remember that no matter what happens with your STBX.

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