OMG! Please read ASAP!

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OMG! Please read ASAP!
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:28pm

I am so sick to my stomach right now! I am scared out of my wits too!

I just sent the guy I was dating, the ex cop, an email telling him that it wasn't going to work out. OMG!!!!!!! I got 2 emails from his soon to be ex wife!!!!!!!! Here they are:

The first one:
Jennifer,
This is Lara,Gregs wife. Im sorry to inform you
that he is in fact a fraud...The informaation he has
told you has not only been a total lie (about me, my
"problems", as he refers to them, which are all a lie
and pretty much all the info he has told you. In fact
today, he sat here telling me that all he could do was
think of me while he was with you...thats why he
watched you sleep...All I know is there is alot more
to his story then he has led on. There is a reason
why I left him after 13 yrs of being together. I hope
the SOB didnt lead u on too much...he is a great
fabricator of truths.

The next one:
Hi Jennifer,
Im sorry to bother u once again, Its a smart
decision on your part to end it with Greg. Little did
he tell you, he is big into "swinging", he gets off by
watching other men f**k his wife...Im sure he didnt
disclose that information...He also didnt tell you he
rented a house 2 streets away from me, decorated it
with all my/our stuff, the same as it was decorated in
Florida in hopes I would come back to him (his exact
words), he is not the "fun loving guy" he claims to
be. He is a selfish, needy prick who thinks of only
himsself! And as far a father of the year, well, ask
him about his 12yr old son he gave the parental rights
away about? he may claim he sees him oftern...yeah
right, his x-wife will definatley beg to differ. He
makes himself out to be such an understanding man,
well 13yrs of taking care of him, being a wife, mothr
and sometimes lover...I could give you an earful...Oh,
he also likes men! Yes, he has sucked a d**k or two,
thre...in the past! And he is flat broke!!!!If you
need more info, feel free to call me...I can fill you
in ------------. And he has never been alone...I gave
him all the love I had in me...he just doesnt know how
to return it. Maybe he's learning after I ended
things...who knows.

WHAT THE F**K!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Am I supposed to believe this? Some of what she is saying does ring true but I'm not sure if this is real or not. I mean, HE TOLD HER THAT HE WATCHED ME SLEEP!!!! I have NEVER been in this type of situation before and am scared out of my wits! He knows where I live! We fooled around! We didn't have sex but we messed around! I am freaking here. I've never had to deal with an ex emailing ME!

This is either her getting back at him or her trying to protect me. I'm not going to call her. I don't want to have anything to do with either one of them! Should I fear that he will drive the hour and a half to come to my house in the middle of the night? He WAS a cop for 17 years!

Please, any help or consolation will be GREATLY appreciated right now!

Jennifer (who is kicking herself in the butt right now!)

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:41pm
No need to get upset. I've been through it all before. You sent the note letting him know it's not going to work out. If he contacts you, then you can tell him again, it's not going to work out. No need to drag what the wife said unless he mentions it and then don't say what she wrote, but reiterate the fact that you had already made that choice even before you received her email. Been their, done that, worked out well and never heard from the guy again. It's good that he lives so far away. Glad you made the right decision to end it before you found out otherwise in a worse situation. Big hugs darling. It's ok, don't be scared.
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:04pm
Thanks Cat. I'm just scared he is going to turn out to be a psycho! He knows too much about my personal life. I didn't know if I was overreacting or not. It just creeps me out.
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:22pm
For instance what sort of info does he know that you are afraid of?
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:26pm
Well, for one, he knows where I live, he knows my last name, he knows what Logan looks like and that he goes to a nearby school obviously. I have seen pictures of his daughter and he has told me about his family but that is about it. That is about all I can think of right now that seems important to me.
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:30pm

I wouldn't be too concerned. The guy is a cheater, not a child molestor; his wife obviosly mentioned everything else though. LOL.

Just act as if you have no idea what just happened. You wouldn't have known unless she hadn't contacted you. You would have just broken it off and not be concerned. I really wouldn't worry that much. If anything strange happens after that, get the police involved. Especially if he was an X cop. But until then, just try to lie low.

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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:41pm
I agree with everything Cat says. What an ordeal - sorry you had to go through this.
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:50pm

Okay. I am going to lay low and try not to worry. Things with E are going well and I don't want anything to ruin that! I don't want anything to happen to my child either. I know in the back of my mind it won't but I guess that is just one of my fears with dating. Good thing is, the sheriff is practically a member of my family so if I need anything I am sure he will be there for me. :)

Thanks for your input Cat. The word "psycho" just keeps ringing in my ears! lol I am not going to email, call or anything. If he tries to contact me, I will ignore it.

Jennifer (feeling a tiny bit better now)

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 4:57pm
Well then I would definitely say you are in good hands if you have good ties with your sheriff. Should anything come up, then just give the sheriff a heads up. But NOT until you are sure. You don't want too much talk. I am sure it's embarrassing enough what the X knew. Big hugs to you! Everything will be just fine. Glad you stuck to your gut and that you are feeling a little better. Of course something like that is truly a SHOCKER! I know, been their, done that. LOL. Thank goodness we didn't have any relations, because of the gut feeling that something was fishy.
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Registered: 02-23-2007
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 5:43pm

As usual, Cat (wise woman that she is), has given you sage guidance on this. I'm just stopping by the thread to say she's right and try not to worry about this too much. Chances are you won't even hear from this guy since your last contact with him was an email ending it.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 11:58pm

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