OMG! Please read ASAP!

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OMG! Please read ASAP!
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Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:28pm

I am so sick to my stomach right now! I am scared out of my wits too!

I just sent the guy I was dating, the ex cop, an email telling him that it wasn't going to work out. OMG!!!!!!! I got 2 emails from his soon to be ex wife!!!!!!!! Here they are:

The first one:
Jennifer,
This is Lara,Gregs wife. Im sorry to inform you
that he is in fact a fraud...The informaation he has
told you has not only been a total lie (about me, my
"problems", as he refers to them, which are all a lie
and pretty much all the info he has told you. In fact
today, he sat here telling me that all he could do was
think of me while he was with you...thats why he
watched you sleep...All I know is there is alot more
to his story then he has led on. There is a reason
why I left him after 13 yrs of being together. I hope
the SOB didnt lead u on too much...he is a great
fabricator of truths.

The next one:
Hi Jennifer,
Im sorry to bother u once again, Its a smart
decision on your part to end it with Greg. Little did
he tell you, he is big into "swinging", he gets off by
watching other men f**k his wife...Im sure he didnt
disclose that information...He also didnt tell you he
rented a house 2 streets away from me, decorated it
with all my/our stuff, the same as it was decorated in
Florida in hopes I would come back to him (his exact
words), he is not the "fun loving guy" he claims to
be. He is a selfish, needy prick who thinks of only
himsself! And as far a father of the year, well, ask
him about his 12yr old son he gave the parental rights
away about? he may claim he sees him oftern...yeah
right, his x-wife will definatley beg to differ. He
makes himself out to be such an understanding man,
well 13yrs of taking care of him, being a wife, mothr
and sometimes lover...I could give you an earful...Oh,
he also likes men! Yes, he has sucked a d**k or two,
thre...in the past! And he is flat broke!!!!If you
need more info, feel free to call me...I can fill you
in ------------. And he has never been alone...I gave
him all the love I had in me...he just doesnt know how
to return it. Maybe he's learning after I ended
things...who knows.

WHAT THE F**K!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Am I supposed to believe this? Some of what she is saying does ring true but I'm not sure if this is real or not. I mean, HE TOLD HER THAT HE WATCHED ME SLEEP!!!! I have NEVER been in this type of situation before and am scared out of my wits! He knows where I live! We fooled around! We didn't have sex but we messed around! I am freaking here. I've never had to deal with an ex emailing ME!

This is either her getting back at him or her trying to protect me. I'm not going to call her. I don't want to have anything to do with either one of them! Should I fear that he will drive the hour and a half to come to my house in the middle of the night? He WAS a cop for 17 years!

Please, any help or consolation will be GREATLY appreciated right now!

Jennifer (who is kicking herself in the butt right now!)

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Registered: 04-14-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 5:32am
Did you know he was still married when you started dating him? If so, you brought a lot of this on yourself. Wives, or soon-to-be ex-wives, have been known to contact women their husbands are dating. As for the poster who said to disregard what the soon-to-be-ex wife says, I disagree -- we all like to discredit the woman and believe the man, but I think she's just letting you know he's a liar and really out there, in case you need to get tested or something. It doesn't sound like she wants him back, and she knows you've broken it off, so why would she lie about this stuff? She probably just wants you to know what he's told her about you, so you'll see he's crazy.
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:46am

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:56am

I did not contact her or him. I DID however tell my brother and a good friend at work just in case. Now since it is the next day, I am feeling a little better about it. I don't think he will come down and do anything but I've just never had to deal with a liar that was THAT deceitful. I'm not comfortable with it but I'm sure time will pass and it will be okay.

Thanks for the encouraging words!

Jennifer

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 12:04pm

I DID know that he was just separated and not divorced. I have dated other men who have been just separated and have never experienced this in my life. I'm just letting the emails "float" out there and I am not going to contact either one of them. THEY can duke it out amongst themselves.

I had only been out with him for 3 dates and was not exclusive with him. HE was the one who was becoming attached and making me feel uncomfortable with how he was acting.

I have tried to tell myself to stay away from men who are just separated but I have the "equal opportunity" attitude and then I end up going out on a date. lol

Thanks for your input!

Jennifer

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