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OMG Valentines piggycakes
| Wed, 02-13-2008 - 9:49pm |
OK i Know I am posting a lot but I just knew you guys would cheer me when you saw I DID IT - I made the piggycakes. It was so good to do something silly. We were hysterical laughing after we put the first one together.
Happy Valentines to everyone!
Happy Valentines to everyone!



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Frankly it became very clear to me as I entered the school with my kid that I could either join the bitter divorcees club ( oh yes, there is one but it is small and kind of negative) or attempt to integrate myself with the rich crowd. I dont really fit in either. I dont like to talk trash about my ex on a daily or even weekly basis. I dont want to get into that kind of negativity when I need things to be positive to stay energized and raise my DS and forward my career for both of us. I also dont want to even pretend or participate in the thought that men are pigs because even before I met bf I HAD to believe he existed to recognize him when he finally came along. And the rich crowd - well I dont throw dinner parties much. I do get my friends to THROW dinner parties when I am preparing a piece to perform somewhere big so I can try it out and get a handle on my nerves. But that isnt about being rich and so I still dont seem to have enough in common with them. My clothes arent designer enough and my kid isnt either - oh and I have a HUGE dog they all look at like I am crazy or something. I would rather have tea with my dog than with them though I think:) One of them recently asked me if I could be auctioned ( yes, you read that right) at the school auction so that I would play at someone's house or teach a violin lesson to a kid. I wasnt even sure how to respond so I wrote her back and told her that my current fee for appearance on stage started at 5000 and gave her the name of my manager and that I taught violin by audition only and at 100 dollars an hour. I suggested I look for something else for them to auction. All of that managerial career stuff is true of course but I am sure it took her by surprise. Just because I drop my kid off in sweats doesnt mean I dont have a closet full of evening gowns! I havent given up the idea that I might be accepted by some of these moms at school but with my luck it will only happen in the last year we are there. I just have given up thinking that if I play charades or pretend to be something I am not that it will help. I just have to be me and keep my head up I guess.
Me, too. I've been kinda sad over this lately. She has all the love of a two parent family and she feels secure- but it is the stigma and status I worry she will be labled. She is almost in 6th grade and it only gets worse. The right clothes- the right neighborhood- the right afterschool activites- things that are hard for a single mom to provide.
So often I feel like I am failing my bright, gifted girl. We were told early on that she was off the charts smart and she is abstract in thinking and has this crazy brilliant science mind. I worry because I work a lot and I don't have the money or resources to enroll her in all the things that probably would launch her.
I just don't want to hold her back :o(
Pac, I bet you could find other moms to carpool with you if there was a program you really wanted her to attend.
I have had the good fortune, since I work from home, to mingle with a lot of the SAHM married moms on my son's volleyball team, recently.
What I have found is that most of them are very harried with having to take 2 or 3 or 4 kids all over the place to umpteen activities each day. And so they are happy to carpool to most things - and we have been doing that more from their requests and even taking kids here after school. I bet they would take them there and you could pick up on your way home from work.
One thing is funny to me. Although I would love to be happily married, I do not at all feel something is wrong with me because I am not - although it was not always this way. I feel very hip and fit and happy as a single and feel lucky - maybe because I am lucky enough to do all of my training and make my own decisions on a lot of things. So I sort of feel they look up to me!! LOL!!
We were told early on that she was off the charts smart and she is abstract in thinking and has this crazy brilliant science mind. I worry because I work a lot and I don't have the money or resources to enroll her in all the things that probably would launch her.
Thanks for the encouragement :o)
You have been a ray of sunshine for me today. First with your post on the "things you never thought you would do" thread and now here.
"I made sure the press knew and got the violin maker publicity and have sent everyone to him since."
That was a great gesture in itself to get him that publicity!
I don't have the money or resources to enroll her in all the things that probably would launch her
Let me give you a Free Pass from that particular guilt trip.
Thank goodness we have free Magnet schools here for children that are special. Otherwise, Alex would be missing out too.
I don't know anything about Magnet schools, but at least Sierra was tested and put into the GATE program in her school. I know that at least her brain is being excersized and she is able to use this program to think outside the box.
Boy do I know about appartment living and No playdates. I could..but it feels strange because no backyard and no big areas like the others in her class have. So I wait for her to be invited to others...but sadly that's not happening either and I'm not sure why!
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