omigosh....

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Wed, 02-02-2005 - 9:29am

I'm pretty sure he's interested, now what the hell do I do with him? LOL


Class last night was great, I did forced conversation again. Even my shyest student is now getting English to come out of his mouth and is doing it well, if limited.


Izzy wasn't there at first

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 9:46am

I just had so much fun reading your story. It gave me such a warm feeling.

Do you have a confidante who knows him who can answer your questions? You mentioned the pastor - if you can speak confidently that is good.

The behavior you describe - complimentary to everyone - sounds so wonderful. And it is so cute how you found gray hair!! I liked reading that.

I think you should keep going as you are going - keep socializing and spending more time with him and everyone in your class. And keep reporting to us of course!!

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 10:24am

I suggest you have some fun and get to know him first. Don't get too physical with him and hold back your heart until you can figure out what he's about and what you want from him.

I don't know if I posted this or not, but I used to teach English as a Second Language. I got asked out by SEVERAL students. Of course, I was only 24 at the time and cute as a button. I dated one of them, a Bolivian. He was a big flirt and would flirt with other women in front of me (in Spanish) and he knew I knew exactly what he was saying. The women assumed I didn't speak Spanish and they'd say things back to him. It was very frustrating and not something I would put up with at this age. He was young too.

Figure out how big of a flirt he is and whether or not you can deal with it. I'd also ask him how old he is at some point. Just so you will know. My ex husband (the peruvian) is 5 yrs older than me, but he looked 5 yrs younger than me when we first met.

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 10:52am

Of course I'm going to get to know him first. We met almost

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Wed, 02-02-2005 - 3:45pm

Candi:

I'm with West; I love hearing your stories also. You sound like you have such a good time teaching. That's the mark of a good teacher, one that really loves it. I also agree with West about talking to someone confidentially, like your pastor. He would be able to keep you confidence, and he would be able to give you insight into customs and practices. Most importantly, keep having fun.

Donna

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 4:11pm

Hi Candi
How are you girl?
I think this guy sounds very intriguing. Just take it slow and see what happens. I do know Latin men are big flirts but it sounds like he's trying to get info on you. That's more than flirting, to me.
If you can get the pastor to give you some help on the QT, go for it! Knowledge is power.

And as far as your class you're teaching, I think that is just great. I hope it continues to be so beneficial to them and to you.
Hugs
Tara

 

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 4:41pm
I think it's terrific, way to go! My only concern is, if anyone would see problems in the teacher getting involved with her students. No matter what age, but that, the professionalism doesn't get lost within the group or your next groups if they think you are to much of ONE of them. I have this problem often with my students. They tend to forget that I am teaching and not socializing all the time etc. I keep my distance between the classroom and private, no matter how handsome. If he wants to see me, or date me, then when the course is over, he can ask, but not prior. Keeps your reputation as respectable. No one can complain about giving special attention.
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Wed, 02-02-2005 - 4:56pm

I have thought about that, and I won't let it happen. ALL of them get special attention, because as adult students that's what they need. I've done individual vocabulary lists for each of their separate jobs, at a cost of 5 or 6 hours one week, of hard research. And I love doing it.


I love them ALL and they know that. I have jumped right into the Mexican culture of showing them how I feel. My emotions are never far under the surface and I don't have to worry about it with them. I'm not paid or certified or evaluated by anyone. And I'm pretty sure if I wanted to allie myself with someone in the group, the pastor would give his blessing...unless he thought it unwise and then he would tell me. AND, like I said, Izzy is getting tips from the pastor already...I'm pretty sure. I've seen him checking to see how to say something to me,