one way to get over it

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Registered: 05-06-2008
one way to get over it
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Wed, 08-20-2008 - 10:08pm

Well, I have really thought about it, and as much as I liked Mr. Summer Romance, I think it is time to move on. I mean, when I sit back and think about it, I initiated most of our times together. He was pretty good about calling, calling back, so I guess I took that as interest. But I was so disconcerted about his not considering me a gf, but wanting to spend the weekend with my kids, saying he couldn't promise monogamy or a commitment (but not that I was asking for that at this stage of the game).

OK, so what did I do to keep from crying all night (thank God for the therapist appointment to get it out of my system), I went on 4 dating websites. Decided to conquer. Went on an e-mail frenzy (better than drinking, I guess). Two rather intelligent men (one cute, one REALLY cute) e-mailed me back pretty fast, both complementing me on my sense of humor and my outlook on life. Two more e-mailed me back today.

Good God, there is life after failed romance. Even if I don't hear back from these guys, it is helpful to know that others are willing and able to take up the challenge.

If Mr. SR decides to come back into the picture, then I have the choice, not the desperation, and with this new found confidence, I can set some more concrete boundaries. But somehow, I don't see that happening.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 10:17pm

I guess my other post was a little late.


Hey, i'm glad you decided to get back out there to see what's out there. Don't forget to read my post on "break up rules" which is really more like "how to survive a breakup".... i thought it mirrored the advice i've been getting here.... and it was humorous.


More confidence and better boundaries is always a good thing.


LB

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:12pm

Good God, there is life after failed romance


Exactly! Good for you!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 7:21am
Yeah, I read that last night. I like the part about "destroying the evidence". So I took my cell and deleted everything about Mr. SR, including phone. And since the only thing he has listed in the phone book is his work number (and he lives where he works, but I am not that desperate to look it up, plus his assistant could pick it up), and I never committed his number to memory (thanks to the cell phone), I can't become a 7 time a day caller!
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 7:24am

Thanks for the support!

BTW, I used to live in RI, both my kids were born there. I actually have to go there tomorrow to get my dog and take my daughter to her orthodontist appointment. (ex would take my dog for two weeks while I was on vacation on Block, but won't take his kids for the weekend, cause it would be too difficult for his girlfriend. Grrr)

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:32am

If you got immediate responses then your outlook is good on online dating. Thats great. You must write good profiles. Can you help me with mine?

Laurie

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:52am
Perhaps you can train your dog to lift his leg on the girlfriend!
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 7:44pm
I don't think I write great profiles, but it appears I write hysterical first e-mails. Maybe I should quit teaching and go into comedy writing. Might be a better way to meet men than working in an elementary school (where all my male colleagues are in their 20's...I'm old enough to be their mother).