Online Date Recap

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Online Date Recap
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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:24am

So I know you've all been waiting to hear how it went.... lol.....

First impression - he looked like a bum and dressed too casual. He was wearing a plain white tshirt and khaki shorts. He was also much taller than I thought.... about 12 inches taller than me. (and I was wearing heals... his 15 yr old daughter is taller than me.)

We walked to the italian restaurant from our meeting place. Very nice place. The weather was perfect (in comparison to all the heat we've been getting) He didn't seem to mind paying for the expensive meal. We talked about MANY things... like Star Wars, Harry Potter, other movies, books, television (since i work in tv), work, and kids. But honestly, I thought, i can't see myself kissing him. Right now, I'm thinking I wont go out a second time. It wasn't horrible, I had a pleasant time, but i didn't feel a real connection.

So at 10pm, I said, well it's getting late. Time for me to go home. He walked me to my car and gave me a hug .... But I didn't go home..lol..what I really did was check out some karaoke (since I was already out of the house....lol) I sang and played some pool til midnight.

Oh, and the bartender made some conversation with me, instead of just serving the drink. He said, how are you doing? LOL and I said, Good and how's your night been? He said, slow. I wanted to talk with him more, on a friends kinda basis but nothing came to me... so I didn't force it. Now i can think of all kinds of friendly (and slightly flirty) things to say... oh well... next time. He really is movie star cute. But I wouldn't do anything stupid, at this point I just want to be his friend (after all he is my bartender....)

Loonybunny

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:51am

That's right, "YOUR BARTENDAR" and with that I have obtained many free drinks having had a few of my own. But friends only statues.

Sorry the date didnt' go to well! I am sure you looked smashing though. Did your date indicate wanting to see you again, or did he get the hint? Glad you went out and enjoyed yourself afterwards. I would have done the exact same thing. :)

Hugs to you,
Catherine

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 11:49am

Well poo. I was hoping that it would turn out to be the beginning of something for you! Oh well, at least you knew right away that there was no connection.

And, girl, keep your bartender! lol Yes, you are right, friends status is the best thing. You only want him to be putting alcohol and mixes in your glass! lol

Jennifer

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 9:59am

Brad called Saturday morning saying he had a nice time.... i could sense he wanted to ask me out again... but I told him I was in the middle of getting ready for my son's birthday party and I would be busy all weekend. He asked me to call him. So i'll have to think of a nice way to let him down .... or do you think if I just not call him he'll start to back off. I mean I won't call him, but if he tries calling or emailing me... then i'll have to say "no".

And I did have quite a busy weekend. I would have loved to go out for some karaoke saturday night, but I spent way too much on the birthday party.. plus I took the kids to see Transformers on Sunday.

Loonybunny

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:07am
Personally, I think it's a hard thing to do, but letting him know you are not interested, is the right thing to do. You know if the shoe were on the other foot you would want to know too. Don't let him call again and then feel like a fool for doing so.
Just send him a note and thank him and let him know he is a very nice person, just not the right person and the best of luck to him.
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:59am
I usually take the "don't answer the phone" approach and hope they get the hint - just because that is easier for me. But if he calls too much then I would send an email saying I don't feel we are a match and good luck with your search. I am always nervous rejecting a guy I don't really know because you never know what they might do. But that is just me.
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 8:24pm

Lol- while Judy's approach may be EASIER, I think Cat is right- send him a quick email saying, "thank you again for the date, but I don't believe this is a match, good luck with your search..."


Then block him so he can't email back and ask "why" - and don't answer the phone if he calls.


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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 8:07am
Yes yes - you are right. And that is easy enough. And it did work on the German guy.